Can My Bestfriend Who Is Not A Certified Event Planner Plan My Wedding

Dear eve,

My name is Bola and my wedding is coming up by March,congrats to me.

The problem is that my Bestfriend is insisting on being my event planner.she is new in the business and I can't turn her down but deep down I don't want her to be the planner.she hasnt not done any event before.I want an experience planner to cover the event.

She said she will do it free but my man said he also doesn't want her too.We are afraid she might not be able to do it right.i don't know how to turn her down pls advise me on what to do.

Bola.

Dear Bola,

You thinking about your friend's feeling means a lot.it shows how a good friend you are to her.

What you should do is to hire her and hire another experience event planner.it is giving her a chance to kick start her own career too.If you don't give her a chance to prove herself who would,it's better you let her make herself proud and help you as well.

You have to explain to your man what this job means to your friend and what helping her means to you too and you also have to explain to your friend why you need to hire an additional planner.Let her know it's to make the job easy for her.she working with the your experienced planner could help her learn more.congrats on advance.wedding

Could It Be That My Mum Is Sleeeping With My Husband

Dear Eve,
I and my husband were deported from the U.s four months ago.i delivered my son two months after arriving Nigeria.my mum has been in our house since then but sometime seem to be going on between her and my husband.
My husband has been able to start something of his own since we came here so he spend all this time at home only on few occasions he went out with friends.Anytime he is at home he chat with my mom endlessly.Whenever my mum is cooking he will offer to help her out in the kitchen,after I have gone to bed they will still be watching one film after another.this triggers some suspense in me because of what I see on television and read on books,about mother in law having affairs with son in law.i have tried to confront my husband but I don't want to accuse him wrongly and break my home.
Please what should I do?
Anna.

Dear Anna,
Firstly,you are not wrong by suspecting them because you are a human being but what you actually feeling is jealousy but before you have this feeling it shows you have known what your mother and husband can do.
You have to cheek what your mom and husband are capable of doing,in order words what kind of persons are they?when you have put this together then you can be able to know if you are safe or not.
Then don't ask any of them this question because you might be accusing them wrongly like you said but you can always join them in the kitchen,watch the television with them or you can sleep in your husband's lap until he is ready to go to bed because he might just be playing the role of a good soon to your mom.Since he isn't not working now he might not be sleeping so early so dismiss all those your feeling or would you prefer your mom and husband fighting all the time.Would you like it if your mom is fighting him all the time or him complaining about your mom all the time so dear your role now is to join them in being a happy family.

My Man Refused To Disvirgin Me After I Gave My Virginity To Another Man He Doesn't Want Me Again

Dear Eve,
I'm a 25 years old lady,I decided to remain a virgin until I get married.it was a promise I made to myself,I wanted my first sex to be with my husband.Five months ago I met a guy and I fell in love with him totally.When I told him that I'm a virgin he was happy but from then on he avoided me sexually.he could not caress me or kiss me.i felt as if he doesn't love me enough because of my virginity.when I asked him he told me that he can't stand the sight of blood.he told me that he doesn't want us to engage in acts that will make us have sex because he hate to see blood and can't stand seeing me in pain.
With all he said I felt as if he can't marry me,I was scared of loosing him.Many times I saw condom in his pocket and when I ask he will say that since we can't do it he has to help himself.that it doesn't mean that he doesn't love me but because he doesn't want to disrespect my body.Because of all this I decided to let another man do it,so when one guy asked me out,I intentionally accepted him not because I love him but because I wanted to get deflowered in order to be available for my man sexually.
After I did it,I told my boyfriend that I have gotten rid of my virginity so I'm free for him now.he was shocked and furious with me.after I calmed him down he made love to me but from that day he started avoiding me.some times when he says that he isn't at home I will find out later that he was at  home.one time like that he travelled,he said he will spend two weeks but later he spent only one week but never told me that he was back.I found out that he was back from his journey from his friends.
Please Eve,do you think he doesn't want me again,I have been blaming me for everything,I don't know what to do to win his love back.
Please what can I do to win him back?
Mercy Ossai.

Dear Mercy,
First of all you really presented yourself cheap because what you did is called CHEATING honey and no man want a cheating girlfriend?from all you wrote it appear you only kept your virginity not for your husband or because of God but for your own reason.If you had kept it to please God or for your husband  you wouldn't have done what you did.After years of holding yourself for your wedding night,for your husband you later handed  it out to a man you just met in order to please a man who hasn't not even proposed to you.A man who openly cheat on you with the excuse that he doesn't like the sight of blood,a man you just met five months ago.
For him not to like the sight of blood is even better for atleast he wouldn't pressurize you into giving him your virginity but you went ahead to give it to another man.what was your expectation after what you have done,were you expecting him to welcome your with a band after you have shown him that you are ready to even kill because of him,you have shown him that the virginity you were keeping was not for your wedding night but for any man who you feel something for.My dear you sold your pride for 5kb.Maybe this man valued you because of your virginity,maybe he wanted you to wet his bed with blood on your wedding night now you have shown him that you weren't really keeping for your wedding night but haven't seen an opportunity to give it out.
You have lost that guy,know that no  man who have sense will still be in love with you after what you have done.Because to him now it's two things,one is that maybe you weren't a virgin that means you lied or you were so cheap to the guy you gave your virginity he can't believe you did it for him.he seduced you and you gave it out,from now on he can never trust you again.now it's time to move on, don't you expect anything good from this guy again.move on with you life certainly another man will show up but this time don't tell him what happened between you and this guy.And this man was even cheating on you and you have to give out your pride just to win his love,honey how far now with the winning?just move on because for him to avoid you clearly means he doesn't want you again but he can't tell you.most men can never tell you that it's over verbally they tell you with actions and this is his way of telling you it's over.You have ended up offending God to gain the world.

He Abandoned Me When I Was Pregnant Now He Wants The Child

Dear Eve,
I urgently need your advice before I make this decision that might affect my child and I.After I dated Ayomide for six months I took in.when I told him that I was pregnant he wasn't happy about it.he told me that he was not ready to be a father yet.When I told his mum she said she is not in support of her son becoming a father if he isn't ready.I was left alone,I cared for myself financially until I delivered the baby.Now my baby is a year old,when He saw my baby's one year birthday celebration on social media he slid into my dm and said he wanted to reconcile with me.Since then he has Been begging to see his child,not only that he wants the child now he wants us to be together.
Life has been so difficult for me financially,I don't know if I should take him back or not.My family said they don't want him to have the child so I don't  know what to do,please what should I do?
Sharon.

Dear Sharon,
You made a mistake by getting pregnant for a man who was not even prepared for it.You also did the right thing by not aborting the child.Now what you should do is to let him see his child,let him have aceess to the child.And he can also assist financially because come rain com shine,the child is his child and nothing can change that.Even if you don't allow him have the child later in life that child will still go back to him.
But for you don't  accept him back,he left you when you needed him most,now he is coming back because you have something he needs.go on with your life,meet another man and start over again.if you should go back to him now and another challenge springs up he will still leave you and run away.Face your life a better man who will stand still to his responsibilities will come.
Goodluck

I'm addicted to masturbation and I hate myself after doing it please how do I stop......

Dear Eve,
My name is Tony,38 years of age.I started masturbation from my adolescent age since then till know I don't have the urge to engage in sexual relationship with the opposite sex,I satisfy myself only through masturbation anytime I have the urge for sex.After each masturbation I feel weak and hate myself.Please how do I stop it.


Dear Tony,
The challenges you have having is normal,this is a thing you started and know it has become a habit.Its normal to have sexual urge its natural but you are going through the satisfaction channel the wrong way.so you need to take some few steps to overcome the addiction.
1)The first step....Talk to a someone.someone you can trust in his intergrity.it can be a friend,your pastor or an elder around you,This person will stand by you with words and encouragement to pull you through.dont be ashamed to let another person know about your addiction many people has different habits and addictions and you can drop your addiction mostly through the help of people's encouragement and support.The best way to be free from addiction is to let people know about it,many great people came public with their drug issues before they can stop.
2)Avoid Being Alone....You have to bring yourself outdoors most time.Dont be too long in a place alone.At times when you have free time go out to visit friends,instead of watching football matches in your home watch it in a public viewing centers.Go for movies in the cinema instead of doing it alone in your home,this will help you not to think or remember anything you are addicted to because your mind will be too occupied with other activities.
3)Bring Out The Creativity In You.....Get out of your comfort zone,engage in activities that will bring out the creativity in you.It can be your normal hobby like reading books,exercising,you can join a band.It will keep your mind away from sexual urge.
4)Take It To God....Pray to God to help you overcome your addiction.Let him know that you can not do it by yourself.Remembe the bible said we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us.By his Grace alone will be able to overcome.
5)Remove Things that will bring up the Urge....like pornoghrapic movies and games.Avoid pornoghrapic pictures or movies.occupy your mind with different things that can take away mind far away from sex.Read Whe you are alone,pray or do other little activities that can make your mind pure.Goodluck

I hate My Parents After I Found Out That I Was Adopted

Dear Eve,
For 26 years I have lived happily with the people I believe are my parents.My mom always take good care of me from my childhood,she scold me when necessary,we fight and make up infact our family was a sweet one and my Father was my best friend until two years ago.
One Sunday morning I returned home from church but my parents weren't back yet,A man was sitting on the gate post him.The man wore the look of anxiety when he saw me,I greeted him and he stood up from his sit and hugged me.All my though is that he might be a distance uncle who has come to visit our house.I ushered him into the sitting room and gave him water to drink on his request.When my parents came back in the afternoon and saw the man,They weren't pleased.Infact my Dad left his stretched hands for hand shake hanging in the hair,he walked away.My mother stood dried up in the sitting room and couldn't move for a while.I saw my mother dry up at once like someone who saw a ghost.After waiting in vain for my parents to come out from their room for countless hours the man left.
From that day,my parents became more caring towards me.My mother would call me more eight times a day to check up on me.My father wouldn't allow me leave his sight but all these I didn't read meaning to it.The strange'man visit continued but this time in more frequent mode.After five visits,the man came one day with one man and a woman.On that day they held endless conversations with my parents.At a point I could hear my mother saying"we can't,we will not do it"
The visitation of the three strangers came to an end one evening and that have left my life in a mess.My parents weren't at home that evening,I was about going to the field to play ball with my friend when I heard the gateman screaming on top of his voice,he was telling the person to go back,when the shouting from the gateman became intense I came out at that point to find out what the problem was,I wasn't surprised to find out that it was the woman who always come with that man.She said she wanted to see me,why me ma my parents are not at home?She said I should go home with her because I'm her son.I let out a laugh because it was like a joke.I told her that I don't understand what she was saying.She said am her son again,at that point I left her there and went to the field with my friend.When I got to the field I played like never before because I felt the woman was not normal or has a hidden agenda.
After dinner that night,I told my parents what happened,I ecpected my parents to laugh or deny it rather they were both shocked and quite.I nearly past out,the walls became smaller and my eyes were filled with tears.But the main shocker was when mom Woke me up the next morning,she and my Father were sitting on my bed.My father narrated to me how he and my mother tried for so many years to conceive but couldn't.His friend who happened to be that first man that came to the house told him one day about a girl who has  gotten pregnant after being raped.The girl agreed to sell the the baby to my parents and my parents took care of her until she delivered the baby and that was me.My parents sent her away with hug amount of money and I became theirs.Now the lady wants me back but my parents refused to let me go.That was why the man came but my parents refused to listen to his reasons at the point where he got frustrated,he had to come with my birth mother and her brother to come and talk to my parents yet my parents refused to give me back and threatened to sue them.
From that moment I hated my parents and my so called birth mother.i became confused about what I'm,who I'm and what the future hold for me.The most devastating part is that I was a product of rape.
I left home four days later,with my little allowance I relocated to Ghana.The last time I heard from anyone from home is from my friend.He told me how my birth mother arrested my adoptive parents after they couldn't provide me.She alleged that my adoptive parents might have harmed me or hide me.They case has been in the court and now I feel home sick.i don't know if it should be wise to return home.
Please what do I do?
Onome.


Dear Onome,
I know you suppose to feel the way you felt when you learnt that you were adopted but you were wrong by living home.It was no one's fault that you came to the world through such circumstances but fate.
Now,you must return home to your adoptive parents.They were there for you when no one else was.They cleaned up and fed you love now you don't owe them anything but love until you do this inner peace you might not find because you are not at peace with your past.They didnt want to give you back to your birth mother because they have loved you,they don't want to loose you.They didn't tell you either because most time adoptive parents think your ego might be hurt or you will withdraw from them that is the reason most of them hide the truth from their adopted children.You have to return home and apologize to them,give them back the love they gave to you and find out why your birth mother wants you back then it's your decision to decided whether to return to your birth mother or stay with your adoptive parents.
Know that even though the circumstances around your birth might not be rosy but the truth is that you are a special child.God loves you and have a great destiny prepared for you that's why he created you at first.Then you must have to accept the truth and forget any other thing and focus on fulfilling God's purpose for your life.you might've think that the society might come to say things about you but no people are busy with their lives to care what happens in your life.so Goodluck as you take the bold step.

My childhood experience of Domestic Violence In My Home Is The Reason Why I Don't Want To Get Married.

Dear Eve,
As a little boy up till my years as a teenager I always  witness my father brutalize my mother.I and my siblings grew up in our home where my father will leave the house for days and return home drunk after several days.The cries and shouts of our mother became the bell that wakes up every night.This was my experience as a child.My Father would complain of every little thing,he beats mother until she wouldn't be able to scream again.After one particular fight he had with mother the young men around our vicinity chained him and beat him mercilessly.A day never past without my mother have a bleeding face.
Now I'm a man of thirty-five,though I been involved with ladies in the past but I don't want to settle down,I'm afraid that my home might turn into the home I grew up in.The experience I had as a child scares me away from getting married.i don't even want to have kids infact am scared of raising a family because of level of domestic violence I experienced in my home as a child.What can I do in this issue.
Theo.

Dear Theo,
To overcome this issue you need to understand that marriage is an institution ordained by God,it's a blessing that's why the bible said that he who finds a wife has found a good thing and obtained Favour from God.That is to say that not only that marriage is meant to be a blessing but also put you in a good relationship with God.
It's unfortunate that the marriage between your parents was opposite of good but that shouldn't make you conclude that yours will be like that.Infact I want you to know that the outcome of your marriage depends on you.your parents had a bad marriage that doesn't mean yours will be like that.Make a decision to be different from your father,be determined to be a good husband and a good father in your home and above all be at peace with God.
Erase the thought of your childhood experience from your mind,don't allow the past to define what your life should become.Whay you experienced had become a past which You should learn from it do not dwell in it.You haven't let go of your past which is too bad because it will keep on hurting you until you let go.Allow your heart to fall in love,build a home and prosper for that is the will of God for you.

Could It Be A Spiritual Attack:My Baby Cries Most Of The Time

Dear Eve,
My baby cries a lot,He is my first baby.Most times when he cries I think he is being attacked spiritually and this scare me.The Father is an oil worker,he is mostly offshore for months so we are always alone.I have done everything but he won't stop crying.
Should I take him to a spiritual house or a medical center....
Mrs Joyce Ekanem.


Dear Mrs Joyce,
I'm so sorry for what you are passing through,I know it must be very frustrating being your first time in motherhood.But I don't think your child has a spiritual issues.Just read below and see the reasons why babies cry and what to do about it.
1)HUNGER....This is probably the first that comes to mind when a baby cries.Learning to recognize the signs of hunger is the best step in motherhood because it wil will help you feed your baby at the right time.Some hunger signs in newborns include fussing,Lip smacking,rooting(you will notice this when the newborn reflex that makes babies turn their head toward your hand when you stroke their cheeks)It is also a sign of hunger when he starts putting  their to their mouth.
2)Stomach Problems.....From Gas And Colic
Tummy upsets associated with gas or colic can lead to lots of crying.The mysterious condition known as colic is usually described as inconsolable crying for atleast three weeks in a row.If your baby often fuss and cry right after being fed,he maybe expressing some sort of tummy pain.one of the known remedy is anti gas drops for babies or gripe water.(it can be herbal or bicarbonate)It has not been proven effective but gets your doctors approval before usage of any of these.
Even if your child isn't colicky and has never been fussy after eating,an occasional bout of gas pain can make her miserable until it passes.If you suspect gas,try putting her on her back,grasping his feet,and moving his legs in a gentle bicycling motion.when you notice that your baby is expresssing  gassy,give the baby infant gas drop,Lay him on the bed on her back.Gently push her knees up to his belly in a rocking motion,talk to the baby or sing for him soon the baby would let out some farts and will be fine.
And if the baby's pant is snug elastic waist,pull the waistband away from the belly to see if it helps.
Sometimes that little bit of pressure hurts their tummy.
3)Wants To Be Held.....Babies most times love being cuddled.They like to see their parent's face,Hear their voices and listen to their heartbeats,They can even detect their smell.crying can be their way of asking to be held close.
4)Teething Pains......Teething can be painful as each new tooth pushes through the tender young gums.Some babies suffer more than others,but all are likely to be fussy and tearful from teething at some point.if your baby seems to be in pain and you're not sure why try feeling his gums with fingers.You may be surprised to discover the hard nub of emerging baby tooth.NOTE teething in new babies on average breaks through between 4 and 7 months but it can still happen earlier.
5)Wants More Stimulation....A demanding baby may be outgoing and eager to see the world.And often the only way to stop the crying and fussing is to stay active.This can be exhausting for you.
Try wearing your baby facing out in a front carrier.So he can see all the activities around him.Plan plenty activities.Hang out with parents with babies,Go on regular outings to kid friendly places such as local playground,Children's museum or a visit to the zoo.
6)Wants Less Stimulation....
Babies learn from the stimulation of the world around them but sometimes they have a hard time processing it all.The lights,the noise, being passed from hand to hand can be too much for the baby and crying can be the babies only way of saying I've had enough.
7)Too Hot Or Cold....
If your baby feels chilly,like when you remove his clothes to change a diaper or clean her bottom with a cold wipe,he may protest by crying.
Newborns like to be bundled up and kept warm.But not too warm,As a rule,they're comfortable wearing one more layer than needs to be comfortable.
Babies are less likely to complain about being too warm than being too cold and they won't about as vigorously.
8)Something painful and card to notice....
Babies can be troubled by something as hard to spot as a hair wrapped tightly around a tiny toe or finger.cutting of circulation(Hair tourniquet in medieval term)it's one of the first thing doctors look for in babies that cries for no reason.Some babies are extra sensitive to things like scratchy clothing tags or fabric.And can be picky about subtleties ranging from the position they're held in to the bottle you offer.
Sometimes you need to put yourself in your baby's shoe to understand his problems.Ask yourself if your finger or foot stuck or cramped how will you feel?do you need to change the way you are string or lying down.All this will help you detect what your baby needs.
9)Needs To Burp....
Burping isn't mandatory.Bit if your baby cries after am being fed,a good burp might be all he wants.babies swallow air when feeding and this may cause discomfort if the air isn't released.Some babies are intensely bothered by having air in their tummy.While others do t seem to burp or needs to be burped much at all.
10)Sleep....
It can be that the baby is tired and I need of sleep.tired babies should just doze off right?but it's harder for them that we might realize.most babies may fuss and cry whenever they are over tired
After feeding,played with,played with and your baby starts crying and fussing,he might be overtired.Just cuddle him close,talk to him and let him cry after a while he will sleep off.
11)Dirty Diaper.Some babies let you know right away when they need to be changed.Others can tolerate a dirty diaper for a while.
12)Not Feeling Well....
If you've met your baby basic needs and comforted him and he still crying.He could be coming down with fever.
Note:Thr cry of a sick baby tends to be distinct fronone caused by hunger or frustration.Id your baby's crying just doesn't sound "right"your instinct may be right then you need to se a doctor.
What To Do If Your Baby Still Cries...Well fed?checked and changed diaper?No fever?Dont panic,your baby is just being a baby.He has his own good reason but can't tell you what's wrong and no parent even the wisest ones can read their child's mind.Just comfort him even if he can tell you why he is still crying.

He Is Not My Church Member That Is Why I Want To Dump Him

Dear Eve,
My name is Ijeoma,Am so confuse right now because nothing seem to be working right for me,my issues always have a reason to bounce back into my own net.
I'm a single lady of 38 years of age,All my younger ones are married with children and this have been a major problem in my life.i have been mocked by people and disgraced even by my own family members.This made me cry sorrowful to God to send me my own missing rib and he is about to do it now but our parents have refused to give their consent.
I met Ifeanyi at my church end of the year prayer convention.We both became friends and exchanged numbers and we became more close after the convention,February this year he proposed to me just two months after we met,my joy was great because I have given up hope.My family members were so excited because I have been a fountain of Shame.
But this joy was cut short immediately I told them he is a Catholic,he was invited to the convention by a friend.My father who is the general overseer of our church swore not be alive and see that happen,my mother has been crying asking me to consider the damage it will cost the church because they have been preaching against getting married to unbelievers.
Ifeanyi's parents have insisted that he will not marry me because of our age gap,I'm four years older than he is and also am not a Catholic.
I feel like to run away from this earth,this is my only chance.I don't know what to do now.I have been praying and asking God for his intervention but both of our parents have not even one bit of change of mind.
Please I seek your advice Miss Eve and the public what should I do?


Dear Ijeoma,
My name is Mrs Adedeji,I read your story and I want to let you know that in your case there still hope for Our God will do it for you,I want to tell you my story.When I met my husband in 1994,he was a Rccg member and I was a living faith church member.We got married in my own church because in Yoruba land a woman must be wedded in her own church.After the wedding I had to start attending Rccg with my husband as supposed but I wasn't comfortable in their services.i decided to attend first service at winners chapel by 6:30am and then return to home and attend Rccg with my husband,I did this for one year then one day I invited my husband to living faith church for breakthrough service that was how my husband became a member of living faith for 19 years now.
I tell you this story for you to know that denomination shouldn't be a reason why you should forget this marriage expect you don't love this man enough then you can listen to your parents.If both of you have agreed to marry then talk to your parents and don't allow them  Use denomination issue to bring everlasting regret to both of you.How can your parents consider someone as an unbeliever because he is not of the same church with you??Is it what the bible taught  us?Our race is of enternity not denomination.Denomniation issue is one of the major reason many matured ladies are still unmarried today.I advice you to overlook denomination if you truly love this man and after you have gotten married don't force him to convert to you church rather you should be in his church,that's how it should be.if eventually he wants to convert it should be his decision to make.
Secondly,you need to know that life generally is a warfare and this your issue is a part of it so put on your war armor which prayer and fight this battle to finish,who knows the devil might be fighting your marital destiny,they have programmed all this to scatter your marital life so you have to fight seriously through prayers,you and your man must join hands together in prayers and victory will be yours.many people who got married to pastors today are not happy in the marriage,that tell us that religion has little to do with the happiness in your marriage,you and your man should know that it is only both of you that will bare the outcome of this marriage therefore close your ears against any advice that will not help you in anywhere.
Lastly,age had nothing to do with love.Love conquerth all things including marriage.Since this man knew of your age different then you have nothing to fear and the mother doesn't have to stop your marriage.Many people who got married to ladies younger than them most of the marriages have packed up,so let this mother know that what will bring successful is not age or church neither material thing but LOVE.I wish you s successful happy marriage life in Advance.

I'm in Love With My Father's Wife

Dear Eve,
It was so early in the morning,I haven't slept a bit althrough the night,my mind was flowed with the event that happened two nights ago.That night is a night my penis slept for once in ten months.I have been desiring her,all I get at the sight of her is an erection but two nights ago I eat the forbidden fruit,I slept with my Step mom.
Ten months ago,My kid sister called me sobbing uncontrollably,i was scare,many thought ran through my mind in what could make Benita cry this way.the last time I heard her cry like this was during our mother's burial ten years ago.She was just seventeen then but she sobbed that day as if she will not live a day after mom's burial.Hearing her sob the same way today was painful.she broke the news after I calmed her down,Dad is taking another wife.
I objected when I got home and stood my ground.all my effort to stop my father's marriage didn't work and Dad married Cecelia.She made me uncomfortable with her beauty,She can turn Everyman into a dummy with her figure infact immediately I set my eyes on this lady I knew that I want her in my bed.
Everyday became a torment,Since we all live in the same house.She was so nice to me and Benita,she serve us food as a maid.she does everything so perfect but the most perfect part of her is her seductive figure.Her full pointed breast can open the eyes of a blind man and like a ritual,that's where my eyes always set on every morning she walks into my room to wake me for morning devotion.For all these months I intentional wait for her to come and wake me up for morning devotions,not that I was asleep but I always desire the intimacy between both of us in my room.i want to feel her presence in my room.Though I have a girlfriend but I love Cecelia more ,I wish I saw her before Dad.Though I love my Dad his marriage to my Dream woman is like a wound to my heart I wish he can drop dead so that I can have Cecelia to myself.
Then the D-Day has come,My Dad has travelled to port harcourt four days ago to return on Monday being the sixth day he travelled.Cecelia has been coming to call me for devotions each morning I feel the urge to grab her front behind and fling her down on my bed.Two days ago I fulfilled that desire.I have been awake since 4:am thinking about her.by 5am I felt her hand tap my leg gently and she whisper"it's time honey wake up"I pretended to be fast asleep she repeated again calling for me to wake up then i opened my eyes and my erection was hard on seeing her stand before me.I asked her to help me get my toothbrush from my bedroom,she walked in her usual manner of a classic lady into the bathroom and her buttock won't stop bouncing to Rythm of her step.By the time she stretched out her hand to hand me the brush I held her hand.i couldn't let her go.i stared into her eyes and lust got me blinded and she stared into mine.I stood up but she didn't move.We were in that position for few minutes and she made to turn away that was when I hugged her from behind.Playing around her breast region with my fingers,I kissed down her neck area and licked up her ears.she moaned in her way that set fire down my system.I turned her around and made her lie down on her back in my bed.She was naked when I spread her legs wide up,I licked vaginal for few minutes and she was screaming my name.I thought my penis will burst up with the amount of sensation going through my veins,then I dig my dick into her and let each thrust into her slide gently.
After the act,we didn't hold the devotion again.Then Benita walked quietly into my room as I was dressing up for work and asked me the Question"How could you"I was ashamed of myself.i couldn't answer her question and she asked again,How could you close your eyes and watch Cecelia live in this house like a queen and contest with me over my father's Love?I exhaled,I thought I have been made?I answered quietly Dear Cecelia is not contesting with you,she is minding her business but you are the one one kept your life on hold to contest with a woman who is living her life.After watching me  without saying a word for some minutes she walked out of my room.
I resumed my life as usually but my life has not been the same.I feel more love for Cecelia,I wish my Father will not return from this trip,I wish Benita will just leave the house for me and Cecelia.I
I sent a message to Cecelia after that incident and she called back.i received the call,her gentle voice  sounded in my ear"Gabriel am so sorry too"
I drove home immediately to hold her once more but she wasn't home.she has gone to work,did I mention she is a fashion designer.since that day till today,we have been avoiding each other.laying down on the bed this morning I wish I can rush into her room and finish what I started.
I don't know what to do,am so in love with Cecelia,I can bate seeing her with my father.
What Do I Do?

How My Wife Abuse Me In Our Matrimonial Home

Dear Eve,
My name is Ehis.What am passing through in my home is bigger than me.I met my wife at the Nysc Orentation Camp seven years ago.After our service year we got married six month down.My mom sponsored the wedding,she wanted the best for us,My wife was welcomed into our home with joy and we were living in my mother's house,as jobless couple my mother was our breadwinner starting from food to medical bills.I couldn't get a job so I have to help my mother in her shop and my wife was jobless too.After our second child I got a job as a teacher in a secondary school and my wife got a job in an oil company that is when our domestic problem started.My wife insisted we move into our own house which I obliged since she is the one paying for the house.I told her earlier that salary won't be enough for a three bedroom flat,she paid for it.Immediately we moved into the new house my wife turned me into a maid.She wakes up by 6:30 am everyday to prepare for work neglecting her duty to our three children,I cook and prepare the children for school.though my wife do work most time late in the night but that's not the reason why she will turn me into a maid,I clean the house and wash all the dishes on her order.Whenever I advice her,she will get angry and won't return to the house after some days if I ask her she will say that I was abusing her emotionally.There is no party in town my wife doesn't attend even when I ask her not to.I'm afraid of divorcing her because I can't survive on my fourty thousand naira salary with the children.She came back to the house yesterday and I was watching a football match,my wife took the remote control and changed the channel to Africa Magic I got angry and hit her.she didn't say a word.she went inside packed all her belongings before two minutes a prado jeep came and pick her up with the kids.Since then her number have been off.What do I do?

Dear Ehis,
I can imagine what you are going through but you must move away from that marriage.I won't advice you to continue because is not helping you grow.most importantly there is no love again in that relationship.Every man need a woman who will stand with you in good and bad time but I this case your woman is more interested in financial status.all you need now is to look for a better job if posssible go for a higher studies so that you can get a better job.for now try to upgrade yourselves in every way possible.But for that marriage forget it but don't forget to take full responsibility of your children.Be there for them all time as a father should.
Goodluck

The Guilt Of Murdering My Wife Is Hunting Me

Dear Eve,
I killed my wife two weeks ago now I feel guilty and get can't sleep at night because of this guilt and the fear that she might appear and kill me.
This problem started one year ago when I find out that she was having an affair with my younger brother  who was her friend before I married her infact I met her through my younger brother.When I came back for Christmas in 2015 she came to visit my brother at home.i fell in love with her immediately.When I asked my brother of their relationship he told me that she is just a co chorister in the church,next time she visited I approached her for a relationship and three months later I married her because I was madly in love with her but the kind of play she and my brother play around was unacceptable to me and I told her that.I was more surprised when my brother started visiting Abuja more than before.
He would call her even in the mid night for no reason as if that was not enough he took her to eatery without my consent.i confronted both of them but they denied having an affair.The pain was so much for me to bare so I decided to end everything so I started given her Ethylene glycol which I normally put in the smoothies I buy for her in my way back from work.She was diagnosed with kidney ailment when she took ill and she died after a while.
After her burial i have not been my self,I feel guilt and regret my actions.i wish she can come back.I feel like I should confess to my parents and her parents.Her mother called yesterday to check up on me and I feel very sorry for her.i'm afraid of what the court might hand down to me as a sentence if I should confess,what people will do to my family and how my parents might feel I am so confuse.
WHAT SHOULD I DO??
From Anonymous.


Dear Anonymous,
You were possessed with jealous and temperament which you failed to control.you failed to build your marriage on trust,you failed to be matured and be a man in your marriage by asking yourself question before carrying out your evil act.Mr Anonymous did you even for once consider seeking for spiritual advice,parental advice before doing what you did.Now you are considering the sentence that you will face but you didn't consider this your wife's parents before doing what you did?Mr you didn't consider the pain her family will bear all through their lives because of their daughter's death and you went ahead to murder your innocent wife who did nothing to you.
You knew your brother was her friend before you married her,you didn't suspect them but after one year of marriage you feel they are now having an affair,Mr you acted like the devil his self.You allowed jealous take better part of you.now you must do something.from what you said she was a friend to your brother to the extent of visiting him at home that shows that his calls to your late wife was base on the friendship they had.you simply allowed the devil to use you to destroy your home
You must confess because even the bible said that he who coverth his sin will not prosper.For that lady's spirit to be at rest you must confess what you did to her.You must come clean my friend.it only when you have confessed that God can forgive you and have mercy on you.Though the court might be harsh in delivering sentence against you if the case should get to it but who knows what God can do if he pardons you.I urge you to confess quickly for there is no sin too great to be forgiven,When you confess only then can you make heaven and that is the only justice you can give to this innocent lady you killed.Goodluck

I'm The Cause Of My Barreness,Should I Tell My Husband.

Dear Eve,
My name Is Kehinde and am 32 years old.I got married to my childhood heart rob eight years ago.But since then I have not been able to conceive.my parents and in laws are worried but I can't come clean and tell them that am the cause of my problem.
When I was in the university I aborted four times for my live in school boyfriend.The last one I did was five months old.I didn't want to abort it but my ex parents didn't accept me.i have no option but to abort the baby,I had complications through the process so my womb was affected.
I later got married to my childhood lover after my service year and since then I haven't been able to conceive.My husband cries anytime there is child dedication in our church or any child birthday around.He has been begging me to follow him to the hospital all these years but I have been telling him that is s doubt to our faith.
Last week,we went for a child dedication of a family friend,when he was asked to pray for the child,with the microphone in his hand he broke down and started crying.Im so confuse right now I don't know if I should tell him the truth or not.What should I do?

Dear Kehinde,
Your problem is a great one but you must to tell him.Who knows you might be able to conceive after confessing to him.Seeing him suffer like this I know you are not enjoying it right?So go and talk to your pastor first.your pastor should be the best person to tell him the truth.you can't handle it alone,he might not be able to handle it so you must need someone else he will respect to be there.he needs to know the truth,though he might be mad but trust me if he really love you he will stay even after knowing the truth,and believe me the doctors might have given their report concerning your womb but God's has not given his own report.Believe me all hope is not lost yet.
Good luck as you do so. OVER TO YOUR GUYS WHAT IS YOUR ADVICE TO KEHINDE DROP YOUR ADVICE ON THE COMMENTS Section below.

Am Dating My Dad's Girlfriend.

Dear Eve,
I met my girlfriend at a wedding reception.she was the chief bride's maid.i fell in love with immediately I saw her little did I know that I was aimed at doom.
I approached her and we became item immediately and was so much in love.she is a banker with a prominent bank in Nigeria while I'm a hotelier.Nothing matters to us after our first date if not our love.we spend weekends together and she became pregnant after seven months of meeting.i was so happy,I can't wait to be a father.I proposed immediately and she accepted.
The worst thing of my life happened when I went to my parents house to tell my Dad about the proposal on getting to the house I met my Dad absent.my mum was crying profusely.when I inquired what the problem was she narrated how my Dad has been cheating with a little girl and she decided to keep quiet,but as she was with Dad's phone this evening a message entered the phone.the sender told my Dad that everything seems ok now that the boyfriend  has accepted the pregnancy but she is feeling guilty since she knows very well that the pregnancy belongs to him my father and not her boyfriend.
I made nothing out of it until my mother gave me the girls number.i dailed it with true caller only for my fiancé' details to appear.i lost it,I confronted her on getting to the house,she started crying and confessing when I showed her my Dad's picture.She said that my Father had been the one footing her bills.That my Dad saw her through her university level and got her the job through his friend.
It has been two years this happened.My Dad died last Friday,he was sick for two weeks and I didn't visit him because I wanted to punish him.i didn't know he will die.i don't know what to do know since the child he had with my ex will be brought home for the burial and I don't want to see that child or my ex.i don't want my mother to see two of them too.should I avoid going to the burial or not,how do I see that child as my brother or I and my sibling stay in this life accepting him as our own??that girl destroyed my home,she ripped my mother's heart apart.
Please what should I do?
Ben Oyelowo.

Dear Ben,
you have to forgive and move ahead.That is what you should have done before your Dad died.
That child is your step brother no matter the circumstances that surrounded his birth.he is an innocent child that doesn't know anything that might have happened between your Father,his mother or yourself.just let it go.your family should embrace that little boy and give your Dad a befitting burial and support that child as far as you can.bring him close and forget your Dad's mistake.
                Over to you readers,what do you think Ben should do.

It seems my husband is Broke:::He won't admit.

Dear Eve,

Dear eve I want you and and the world to advice me on this because I'm going crazy.My husband of 3yrs seems to be broke.Before now he cares for the family financially,He pays the rent and medical bills and I'm a housewife.But since late last year he does non of that.He won't bring out money for anything in the house,he barely eat at home these days and won't care if I have money to eat or not.Whenever I ask for a thing he will say he doesn't have money.

I don't want to report him to his parents or mine but I'm am suffering here.I find it difficult to take care of myself or even buy anything we need for the house.He leaves the house very early every day,he won't touch his breakfast and won't ask me if I have anything to eat.

Should I report him to our family,or should I quit this hell of a marriage please my brothers and sisters advice me.

Dammy.

Dear Dammy,

It is clear that your husband is going through difficult time that might not have anything to do with finance but have to do with you.This man practically does everything for you financial for three years  but is not happy with you.there must be something he is complaining about you that you won't stop doing so he is clearly angry with you.For a husband who has been footing the bills to suddenly change means he is not satisfy with your character.

Now you have to have a serious talk with him,but before then you must try to be more caring to him,be kind to him.Excort him to the car every morning,infact make him a king now.i bet you this man will personally tell you all his problems.Change all your characters he might be complaining of because from the look of thing he is angry with you not broke.even if he is broke it your duty to find out through a heart to heart talk which you need to engage him in through a caring and matured way and most especially pray for him.

And also read the comments and see what others have to say.

I am in love with my boyfriend's younger brother

Dear Eve,
My name is Chioma and I'm 28 year old.I met a guy few months ago,when he asked me out I agreed to date him cos I wanted to forget about my ex.he is good looking,has a good job but not entirely my type.he talks so loudly,he jokes a lot,he doesn't know how to comport himself in  public and all this turns me off.
Recently his younger brother came visiting,I fell in love with him.he behaves exactly the way I want.he speaks so well and well mannered.he is opposite of all his brother isn't.
Ma,I'm so confused,I don't know if it will be wise for me to tell him what I feel about him.
Please I need your advice ma.


Dear Chioma,
It is not wrong for you to have a feeling for someone.it is normal but what your focus should be is does this  person feel the same way for you?From all you said this guy has no notice of you.What I think you should do is to concentrate on your boyfriend.Forget about his flawless and let yourself see those good side of him.Most people get hooked up to people with flawless but turns out to make perfect couple.
What every woman should be looking for is a man who is in love with her,and from what you said this young man is in love with you while the brother you are killing yourself for isnt in love with you.You might not even be his type.have imagined what will happen if both of them should know that you are admiring his younger brother.Your said crush might take advantage of you and you will end up dividing the family you suppose to build up and in the long run they will tag you a cheat,crazy and all sort of that.i advice you erase any thought you have for this guy and concentrate on building a better relationship with your boyfriend but if you can't be in that relationship is better you quit and find another person not related to your boyfriend.be wise and careful thank you.

He wants to dump me because his people don't approve of our relationship

Dear eve,
My boyfriend of two years wants to quit the relationship because his parents doesn't want him to marry from a different tribe.it all started six months ago,after we went to visit his parents house he change from the person I knew to someone else entirely.I became so bothered and I kept on asking him to tell me his problem,to the reason why he distanced his self from me,he always have an excuse why he won't pick my calls,He doesn't allow me visit his house anymore.
That is when he told me that his parents told him to quit anything he is having with me because am not from their Igbo tribe.i talked to him,I begged him to stand and fight this fight with me.he promised to talk to his parents but up till now his character is Still the same.he won't call or else I call him,he gives so much excuses for his behavior.i feel depressed and confuse.What should I do to win him back.
             Dear,
I sincerely think that you should move on with your life.remove love from this and use common sense.A guy who truly love you can never,I repeat can never leave you because his parents says so.When people say that love is blind,believe it girlfriend,love is truly blind that is the reason why Jacob labored for Leah for fourteen years because he knows he is fighting for who he loves.for this guy to changed his character means he is not ready for you,what he should have done is take you to his parents house again,both of you should be there like two weeks.he will use that opportunity to talk to his parents with you and let them know what you mean to each other.
Who know if he is lying against his parents since he is this fast to hit the road what happens tomorrow if something bigger than this situation should occur what will he do.will he be able to stay if you can't bear a child,will he be able to stay if you have a terminal disease,all this you should asked yourself and you will believe me when I tell you that this guy doesn't love you as you love him and that Is  an error.you shouldn't be the one begging him to stay,it is his duty to love you and be able to stand with you in good time and bad time.so move ahead with your life and a better man will show up soon.

He wants to dump me because his people said so.Dear Eve,I'm heartbroken and depressed,I feel like to commit suicide because my boyfriend of two years want to dump.this started six months ago,after he instroduced me to his people.his people don't want me to get married to him because I come from a different tribe.We met through a friend two years ago.we fell in love with each other immediately we loved ourself sincerely and was more like best friends.but his attitude changed six months ago after he came to my house and told me that he can't continue with the relationship because his parents am told him he must marry from their Igbo tribe and no tribe else since he is the only son.i have tried talking to him,I have told him to see reasons why we should fight for our love.but he insists that his parents will be heartbroken if he should disobey them.i am heartbroken and can't move on because I love him so much what do I do eve? Dear kehinde,I must say that I'm moved by your pure love for this guy and I must say that this guy doesn't know love you as much as you love him.someone who claims to be in love with you for two years should be able to stand beside you in tough time like this.someone who truly love you should be able to stand with you in good and bad time.i think you should move on with your life.come to think of it how do you know that he isn't not lying against his parents in order to have reasons to dump you.have he talked to his parents??have he tried to take you to his parents and both of you really love each other as you explained.both of you should talk to them,tell them how much you mean to each other that is what both of you should have done.But he is ready to hit the road that means he is not ready for you,he can't sacrifice anything for you,he can't bear any pain for you so if he marries you tommorow he will be ready to divorce you if his parents should complain of anything concerning you.he be ready to take off if any hard situation should arise.so dear wipe your tears and wait impatiently for the man who will stand with you in any situation.