He Dumped Me After Two Years,I Can't Get Over It.

Dear Eve,
My heart is aching,I'm in so much pain and agony,he broke my heart in a way I never expected.I don't know how to get over it.
I met Kanyine in 2014 on Facebook,he was residing in Germany then.we became more of friends and lovers.we spent hours talking on phone everyday.four months after we met he sent money to me to start erecting a house on a piece of land he brought before he traveled. He sent to me to his village to spend a month with his mom and his older sisters,being the only son he wanted his mother to be close to his wife to be.I thought he was joking until he started sending pictures of wedding gowns to me and asked me to choose the one I would love.I made my choice and he bought it for me.one year after our meeting he came back,my hope knows no bound.he asked me to pack into the new house with him which I did and he proposed weeks after,we lived together for a year and ten months.
 Few months after I packed into his housr he started complaining about me.nothing I did was good again,all my character was wrong in his eyes.I won't lie,they was sometimes when I will stand up for myself and it will always result in beating.he was beating me as if I'm his fellow man.
5months ago,his younger brother visited.I tried being nice to him also but he always give a cold shoulder.I didn't know what his brother told him about me because he always avoid me.then one day he asked me to make bed for him I refused and he reported me to his brother,my fiance.when my fiance asked me I told him I can't make bed for somone who avoids me.he became angry and said that i'm very disrespectful.we argued and he started punching me.his brother was just standing,he made no effort to separate us.after the fight Kanyine asked me out of the house and threw my things outside.i slept in a friends house and the next day I travelled to his mother's place.narrated the story to her,she said I should go to Owerri,that she will speak her son and get back to me.I called her the next day,she didn't pick,I sent numerous messages,she didn't reply.my mother talked to my fiance and he said I should give him time to calm down.
One month later I was shocked to my marrow when I saw my fiance's pre-wedding photographys on social media. He got married to a girl from the same church where we worship with the same wedding gown he bought for me.
Since then I have been a shadow of myself,living in pain and agony.i have been broken financially because we partner in the business he started when he came back.
Please how do I get over this.
Agnes.


Dear Agnes,
For a year and ten months you have been living together with a man who wasn't married to you.certainly the relationship broke up because you laid a faulty foundation.you had a sinful foundation.as a matter of fact you are not suppose to live in the same house with a man who hasn't pay your dowry because certainly both of you will start seeing faulty in no distance time and between God and africa culture its wrong.moreover you refusing to make bed for his younger brother was bad too.as a woman you suppose not to wait until you are asked or begged before you make the bed.you suppose to do it before he ask.you were wrong, very wrong honey.
Yes his younger brother was avoiding you but did you take time to ask him why,being his younger brother also means he is your fiance and its your duty to bring happiness,kindness and care to your home.what is kindness if you don't care enough to ask your soon to be brother in law why his attitude toward you changed.assume you asked him it wouldnt have been like this.
I'm not saying that you are entirely wrong but I'm trying to point out the few areas you failed.arguing with a man in his entire self is wrong.that is the best way to avoid the beating.am not justifying domestic violence but women who try to talk with their action rather than words have more peaceful home.
You are broken now because you were busy building his business with him and weren't building yourself in anywhere.this man was beating you and stay put in the relationship and no time did you try to shake this off by packing out for a while.you turn yourself into a prey.
For his mother to promise talking to her son and the same time stopped taking you calls shows that this people wanted you out but you failed to understand this.
The best thing to do now is to kneel down and beg God to forgive for the fornication you committed with your ex and start building a new relationship with God.a sincere relationship with God first will bring a better relationship with your partner.
Get involve in things that will make you forget your ex,don't try to remember how sweet memories you had,let the past pass.erase the old memories and build up head with the words of proverb everyday.exercise and go out with new friends.
God will certainly give you a better man soon.