How My Wife Abuse Me In Our Matrimonial Home

Dear Eve,
My name is Ehis.What am passing through in my home is bigger than me.I met my wife at the Nysc Orentation Camp seven years ago.After our service year we got married six month down.My mom sponsored the wedding,she wanted the best for us,My wife was welcomed into our home with joy and we were living in my mother's house,as jobless couple my mother was our breadwinner starting from food to medical bills.I couldn't get a job so I have to help my mother in her shop and my wife was jobless too.After our second child I got a job as a teacher in a secondary school and my wife got a job in an oil company that is when our domestic problem started.My wife insisted we move into our own house which I obliged since she is the one paying for the house.I told her earlier that salary won't be enough for a three bedroom flat,she paid for it.Immediately we moved into the new house my wife turned me into a maid.She wakes up by 6:30 am everyday to prepare for work neglecting her duty to our three children,I cook and prepare the children for school.though my wife do work most time late in the night but that's not the reason why she will turn me into a maid,I clean the house and wash all the dishes on her order.Whenever I advice her,she will get angry and won't return to the house after some days if I ask her she will say that I was abusing her emotionally.There is no party in town my wife doesn't attend even when I ask her not to.I'm afraid of divorcing her because I can't survive on my fourty thousand naira salary with the children.She came back to the house yesterday and I was watching a football match,my wife took the remote control and changed the channel to Africa Magic I got angry and hit her.she didn't say a word.she went inside packed all her belongings before two minutes a prado jeep came and pick her up with the kids.Since then her number have been off.What do I do?

Dear Ehis,
I can imagine what you are going through but you must move away from that marriage.I won't advice you to continue because is not helping you grow.most importantly there is no love again in that relationship.Every man need a woman who will stand with you in good and bad time but I this case your woman is more interested in financial status.all you need now is to look for a better job if posssible go for a higher studies so that you can get a better job.for now try to upgrade yourselves in every way possible.But for that marriage forget it but don't forget to take full responsibility of your children.Be there for them all time as a father should.
Goodluck