Dear Eve,
My name is Ijeoma,Am so confuse right now because nothing seem to be working right for me,my issues always have a reason to bounce back into my own net.
I'm a single lady of 38 years of age,All my younger ones are married with children and this have been a major problem in my life.i have been mocked by people and disgraced even by my own family members.This made me cry sorrowful to God to send me my own missing rib and he is about to do it now but our parents have refused to give their consent.
I met Ifeanyi at my church end of the year prayer convention.We both became friends and exchanged numbers and we became more close after the convention,February this year he proposed to me just two months after we met,my joy was great because I have given up hope.My family members were so excited because I have been a fountain of Shame.
But this joy was cut short immediately I told them he is a Catholic,he was invited to the convention by a friend.My father who is the general overseer of our church swore not be alive and see that happen,my mother has been crying asking me to consider the damage it will cost the church because they have been preaching against getting married to unbelievers.
Ifeanyi's parents have insisted that he will not marry me because of our age gap,I'm four years older than he is and also am not a Catholic.
I feel like to run away from this earth,this is my only chance.I don't know what to do now.I have been praying and asking God for his intervention but both of our parents have not even one bit of change of mind.
Please I seek your advice Miss Eve and the public what should I do?
Dear Ijeoma,
My name is Mrs Adedeji,I read your story and I want to let you know that in your case there still hope for Our God will do it for you,I want to tell you my story.When I met my husband in 1994,he was a Rccg member and I was a living faith church member.We got married in my own church because in Yoruba land a woman must be wedded in her own church.After the wedding I had to start attending Rccg with my husband as supposed but I wasn't comfortable in their services.i decided to attend first service at winners chapel by 6:30am and then return to home and attend Rccg with my husband,I did this for one year then one day I invited my husband to living faith church for breakthrough service that was how my husband became a member of living faith for 19 years now.
I tell you this story for you to know that denomination shouldn't be a reason why you should forget this marriage expect you don't love this man enough then you can listen to your parents.If both of you have agreed to marry then talk to your parents and don't allow them Use denomination issue to bring everlasting regret to both of you.How can your parents consider someone as an unbeliever because he is not of the same church with you??Is it what the bible taught us?Our race is of enternity not denomination.Denomniation issue is one of the major reason many matured ladies are still unmarried today.I advice you to overlook denomination if you truly love this man and after you have gotten married don't force him to convert to you church rather you should be in his church,that's how it should be.if eventually he wants to convert it should be his decision to make.
Secondly,you need to know that life generally is a warfare and this your issue is a part of it so put on your war armor which prayer and fight this battle to finish,who knows the devil might be fighting your marital destiny,they have programmed all this to scatter your marital life so you have to fight seriously through prayers,you and your man must join hands together in prayers and victory will be yours.many people who got married to pastors today are not happy in the marriage,that tell us that religion has little to do with the happiness in your marriage,you and your man should know that it is only both of you that will bare the outcome of this marriage therefore close your ears against any advice that will not help you in anywhere.
Lastly,age had nothing to do with love.Love conquerth all things including marriage.Since this man knew of your age different then you have nothing to fear and the mother doesn't have to stop your marriage.Many people who got married to ladies younger than them most of the marriages have packed up,so let this mother know that what will bring successful is not age or church neither material thing but LOVE.I wish you s successful happy marriage life in Advance.
Sunday 30 April 2017
Thursday 27 April 2017
I'm in Love With My Father's Wife
Dear Eve,
It was so early in the morning,I haven't slept a bit althrough the night,my mind was flowed with the event that happened two nights ago.That night is a night my penis slept for once in ten months.I have been desiring her,all I get at the sight of her is an erection but two nights ago I eat the forbidden fruit,I slept with my Step mom.
Ten months ago,My kid sister called me sobbing uncontrollably,i was scare,many thought ran through my mind in what could make Benita cry this way.the last time I heard her cry like this was during our mother's burial ten years ago.She was just seventeen then but she sobbed that day as if she will not live a day after mom's burial.Hearing her sob the same way today was painful.she broke the news after I calmed her down,Dad is taking another wife.
I objected when I got home and stood my ground.all my effort to stop my father's marriage didn't work and Dad married Cecelia.She made me uncomfortable with her beauty,She can turn Everyman into a dummy with her figure infact immediately I set my eyes on this lady I knew that I want her in my bed.
Everyday became a torment,Since we all live in the same house.She was so nice to me and Benita,she serve us food as a maid.she does everything so perfect but the most perfect part of her is her seductive figure.Her full pointed breast can open the eyes of a blind man and like a ritual,that's where my eyes always set on every morning she walks into my room to wake me for morning devotion.For all these months I intentional wait for her to come and wake me up for morning devotions,not that I was asleep but I always desire the intimacy between both of us in my room.i want to feel her presence in my room.Though I have a girlfriend but I love Cecelia more ,I wish I saw her before Dad.Though I love my Dad his marriage to my Dream woman is like a wound to my heart I wish he can drop dead so that I can have Cecelia to myself.
Then the D-Day has come,My Dad has travelled to port harcourt four days ago to return on Monday being the sixth day he travelled.Cecelia has been coming to call me for devotions each morning I feel the urge to grab her front behind and fling her down on my bed.Two days ago I fulfilled that desire.I have been awake since 4:am thinking about her.by 5am I felt her hand tap my leg gently and she whisper"it's time honey wake up"I pretended to be fast asleep she repeated again calling for me to wake up then i opened my eyes and my erection was hard on seeing her stand before me.I asked her to help me get my toothbrush from my bedroom,she walked in her usual manner of a classic lady into the bathroom and her buttock won't stop bouncing to Rythm of her step.By the time she stretched out her hand to hand me the brush I held her hand.i couldn't let her go.i stared into her eyes and lust got me blinded and she stared into mine.I stood up but she didn't move.We were in that position for few minutes and she made to turn away that was when I hugged her from behind.Playing around her breast region with my fingers,I kissed down her neck area and licked up her ears.she moaned in her way that set fire down my system.I turned her around and made her lie down on her back in my bed.She was naked when I spread her legs wide up,I licked vaginal for few minutes and she was screaming my name.I thought my penis will burst up with the amount of sensation going through my veins,then I dig my dick into her and let each thrust into her slide gently.
After the act,we didn't hold the devotion again.Then Benita walked quietly into my room as I was dressing up for work and asked me the Question"How could you"I was ashamed of myself.i couldn't answer her question and she asked again,How could you close your eyes and watch Cecelia live in this house like a queen and contest with me over my father's Love?I exhaled,I thought I have been made?I answered quietly Dear Cecelia is not contesting with you,she is minding her business but you are the one one kept your life on hold to contest with a woman who is living her life.After watching me without saying a word for some minutes she walked out of my room.
I resumed my life as usually but my life has not been the same.I feel more love for Cecelia,I wish my Father will not return from this trip,I wish Benita will just leave the house for me and Cecelia.I
I sent a message to Cecelia after that incident and she called back.i received the call,her gentle voice sounded in my ear"Gabriel am so sorry too"
I drove home immediately to hold her once more but she wasn't home.she has gone to work,did I mention she is a fashion designer.since that day till today,we have been avoiding each other.laying down on the bed this morning I wish I can rush into her room and finish what I started.
I don't know what to do,am so in love with Cecelia,I can bate seeing her with my father.
What Do I Do?
It was so early in the morning,I haven't slept a bit althrough the night,my mind was flowed with the event that happened two nights ago.That night is a night my penis slept for once in ten months.I have been desiring her,all I get at the sight of her is an erection but two nights ago I eat the forbidden fruit,I slept with my Step mom.
Ten months ago,My kid sister called me sobbing uncontrollably,i was scare,many thought ran through my mind in what could make Benita cry this way.the last time I heard her cry like this was during our mother's burial ten years ago.She was just seventeen then but she sobbed that day as if she will not live a day after mom's burial.Hearing her sob the same way today was painful.she broke the news after I calmed her down,Dad is taking another wife.
I objected when I got home and stood my ground.all my effort to stop my father's marriage didn't work and Dad married Cecelia.She made me uncomfortable with her beauty,She can turn Everyman into a dummy with her figure infact immediately I set my eyes on this lady I knew that I want her in my bed.
Everyday became a torment,Since we all live in the same house.She was so nice to me and Benita,she serve us food as a maid.she does everything so perfect but the most perfect part of her is her seductive figure.Her full pointed breast can open the eyes of a blind man and like a ritual,that's where my eyes always set on every morning she walks into my room to wake me for morning devotion.For all these months I intentional wait for her to come and wake me up for morning devotions,not that I was asleep but I always desire the intimacy between both of us in my room.i want to feel her presence in my room.Though I have a girlfriend but I love Cecelia more ,I wish I saw her before Dad.Though I love my Dad his marriage to my Dream woman is like a wound to my heart I wish he can drop dead so that I can have Cecelia to myself.
Then the D-Day has come,My Dad has travelled to port harcourt four days ago to return on Monday being the sixth day he travelled.Cecelia has been coming to call me for devotions each morning I feel the urge to grab her front behind and fling her down on my bed.Two days ago I fulfilled that desire.I have been awake since 4:am thinking about her.by 5am I felt her hand tap my leg gently and she whisper"it's time honey wake up"I pretended to be fast asleep she repeated again calling for me to wake up then i opened my eyes and my erection was hard on seeing her stand before me.I asked her to help me get my toothbrush from my bedroom,she walked in her usual manner of a classic lady into the bathroom and her buttock won't stop bouncing to Rythm of her step.By the time she stretched out her hand to hand me the brush I held her hand.i couldn't let her go.i stared into her eyes and lust got me blinded and she stared into mine.I stood up but she didn't move.We were in that position for few minutes and she made to turn away that was when I hugged her from behind.Playing around her breast region with my fingers,I kissed down her neck area and licked up her ears.she moaned in her way that set fire down my system.I turned her around and made her lie down on her back in my bed.She was naked when I spread her legs wide up,I licked vaginal for few minutes and she was screaming my name.I thought my penis will burst up with the amount of sensation going through my veins,then I dig my dick into her and let each thrust into her slide gently.
After the act,we didn't hold the devotion again.Then Benita walked quietly into my room as I was dressing up for work and asked me the Question"How could you"I was ashamed of myself.i couldn't answer her question and she asked again,How could you close your eyes and watch Cecelia live in this house like a queen and contest with me over my father's Love?I exhaled,I thought I have been made?I answered quietly Dear Cecelia is not contesting with you,she is minding her business but you are the one one kept your life on hold to contest with a woman who is living her life.After watching me without saying a word for some minutes she walked out of my room.
I resumed my life as usually but my life has not been the same.I feel more love for Cecelia,I wish my Father will not return from this trip,I wish Benita will just leave the house for me and Cecelia.I
I sent a message to Cecelia after that incident and she called back.i received the call,her gentle voice sounded in my ear"Gabriel am so sorry too"
I drove home immediately to hold her once more but she wasn't home.she has gone to work,did I mention she is a fashion designer.since that day till today,we have been avoiding each other.laying down on the bed this morning I wish I can rush into her room and finish what I started.
I don't know what to do,am so in love with Cecelia,I can bate seeing her with my father.
What Do I Do?
Monday 24 April 2017
How My Wife Abuse Me In Our Matrimonial Home
Dear Eve,
My name is Ehis.What am passing through in my home is bigger than me.I met my wife at the Nysc Orentation Camp seven years ago.After our service year we got married six month down.My mom sponsored the wedding,she wanted the best for us,My wife was welcomed into our home with joy and we were living in my mother's house,as jobless couple my mother was our breadwinner starting from food to medical bills.I couldn't get a job so I have to help my mother in her shop and my wife was jobless too.After our second child I got a job as a teacher in a secondary school and my wife got a job in an oil company that is when our domestic problem started.My wife insisted we move into our own house which I obliged since she is the one paying for the house.I told her earlier that salary won't be enough for a three bedroom flat,she paid for it.Immediately we moved into the new house my wife turned me into a maid.She wakes up by 6:30 am everyday to prepare for work neglecting her duty to our three children,I cook and prepare the children for school.though my wife do work most time late in the night but that's not the reason why she will turn me into a maid,I clean the house and wash all the dishes on her order.Whenever I advice her,she will get angry and won't return to the house after some days if I ask her she will say that I was abusing her emotionally.There is no party in town my wife doesn't attend even when I ask her not to.I'm afraid of divorcing her because I can't survive on my fourty thousand naira salary with the children.She came back to the house yesterday and I was watching a football match,my wife took the remote control and changed the channel to Africa Magic I got angry and hit her.she didn't say a word.she went inside packed all her belongings before two minutes a prado jeep came and pick her up with the kids.Since then her number have been off.What do I do?
Dear Ehis,
I can imagine what you are going through but you must move away from that marriage.I won't advice you to continue because is not helping you grow.most importantly there is no love again in that relationship.Every man need a woman who will stand with you in good and bad time but I this case your woman is more interested in financial status.all you need now is to look for a better job if posssible go for a higher studies so that you can get a better job.for now try to upgrade yourselves in every way possible.But for that marriage forget it but don't forget to take full responsibility of your children.Be there for them all time as a father should.
Goodluck
My name is Ehis.What am passing through in my home is bigger than me.I met my wife at the Nysc Orentation Camp seven years ago.After our service year we got married six month down.My mom sponsored the wedding,she wanted the best for us,My wife was welcomed into our home with joy and we were living in my mother's house,as jobless couple my mother was our breadwinner starting from food to medical bills.I couldn't get a job so I have to help my mother in her shop and my wife was jobless too.After our second child I got a job as a teacher in a secondary school and my wife got a job in an oil company that is when our domestic problem started.My wife insisted we move into our own house which I obliged since she is the one paying for the house.I told her earlier that salary won't be enough for a three bedroom flat,she paid for it.Immediately we moved into the new house my wife turned me into a maid.She wakes up by 6:30 am everyday to prepare for work neglecting her duty to our three children,I cook and prepare the children for school.though my wife do work most time late in the night but that's not the reason why she will turn me into a maid,I clean the house and wash all the dishes on her order.Whenever I advice her,she will get angry and won't return to the house after some days if I ask her she will say that I was abusing her emotionally.There is no party in town my wife doesn't attend even when I ask her not to.I'm afraid of divorcing her because I can't survive on my fourty thousand naira salary with the children.She came back to the house yesterday and I was watching a football match,my wife took the remote control and changed the channel to Africa Magic I got angry and hit her.she didn't say a word.she went inside packed all her belongings before two minutes a prado jeep came and pick her up with the kids.Since then her number have been off.What do I do?
Dear Ehis,
I can imagine what you are going through but you must move away from that marriage.I won't advice you to continue because is not helping you grow.most importantly there is no love again in that relationship.Every man need a woman who will stand with you in good and bad time but I this case your woman is more interested in financial status.all you need now is to look for a better job if posssible go for a higher studies so that you can get a better job.for now try to upgrade yourselves in every way possible.But for that marriage forget it but don't forget to take full responsibility of your children.Be there for them all time as a father should.
Goodluck
Wednesday 19 April 2017
The Guilt Of Murdering My Wife Is Hunting Me
Dear Eve,
I killed my wife two weeks ago now I feel guilty and get can't sleep at night because of this guilt and the fear that she might appear and kill me.
This problem started one year ago when I find out that she was having an affair with my younger brother who was her friend before I married her infact I met her through my younger brother.When I came back for Christmas in 2015 she came to visit my brother at home.i fell in love with her immediately.When I asked my brother of their relationship he told me that she is just a co chorister in the church,next time she visited I approached her for a relationship and three months later I married her because I was madly in love with her but the kind of play she and my brother play around was unacceptable to me and I told her that.I was more surprised when my brother started visiting Abuja more than before.
He would call her even in the mid night for no reason as if that was not enough he took her to eatery without my consent.i confronted both of them but they denied having an affair.The pain was so much for me to bare so I decided to end everything so I started given her Ethylene glycol which I normally put in the smoothies I buy for her in my way back from work.She was diagnosed with kidney ailment when she took ill and she died after a while.
After her burial i have not been my self,I feel guilt and regret my actions.i wish she can come back.I feel like I should confess to my parents and her parents.Her mother called yesterday to check up on me and I feel very sorry for her.i'm afraid of what the court might hand down to me as a sentence if I should confess,what people will do to my family and how my parents might feel I am so confuse.
WHAT SHOULD I DO??
From Anonymous.
Dear Anonymous,
You were possessed with jealous and temperament which you failed to control.you failed to build your marriage on trust,you failed to be matured and be a man in your marriage by asking yourself question before carrying out your evil act.Mr Anonymous did you even for once consider seeking for spiritual advice,parental advice before doing what you did.Now you are considering the sentence that you will face but you didn't consider this your wife's parents before doing what you did?Mr you didn't consider the pain her family will bear all through their lives because of their daughter's death and you went ahead to murder your innocent wife who did nothing to you.
You knew your brother was her friend before you married her,you didn't suspect them but after one year of marriage you feel they are now having an affair,Mr you acted like the devil his self.You allowed jealous take better part of you.now you must do something.from what you said she was a friend to your brother to the extent of visiting him at home that shows that his calls to your late wife was base on the friendship they had.you simply allowed the devil to use you to destroy your home
You must confess because even the bible said that he who coverth his sin will not prosper.For that lady's spirit to be at rest you must confess what you did to her.You must come clean my friend.it only when you have confessed that God can forgive you and have mercy on you.Though the court might be harsh in delivering sentence against you if the case should get to it but who knows what God can do if he pardons you.I urge you to confess quickly for there is no sin too great to be forgiven,When you confess only then can you make heaven and that is the only justice you can give to this innocent lady you killed.Goodluck
I killed my wife two weeks ago now I feel guilty and get can't sleep at night because of this guilt and the fear that she might appear and kill me.
This problem started one year ago when I find out that she was having an affair with my younger brother who was her friend before I married her infact I met her through my younger brother.When I came back for Christmas in 2015 she came to visit my brother at home.i fell in love with her immediately.When I asked my brother of their relationship he told me that she is just a co chorister in the church,next time she visited I approached her for a relationship and three months later I married her because I was madly in love with her but the kind of play she and my brother play around was unacceptable to me and I told her that.I was more surprised when my brother started visiting Abuja more than before.
He would call her even in the mid night for no reason as if that was not enough he took her to eatery without my consent.i confronted both of them but they denied having an affair.The pain was so much for me to bare so I decided to end everything so I started given her Ethylene glycol which I normally put in the smoothies I buy for her in my way back from work.She was diagnosed with kidney ailment when she took ill and she died after a while.
After her burial i have not been my self,I feel guilt and regret my actions.i wish she can come back.I feel like I should confess to my parents and her parents.Her mother called yesterday to check up on me and I feel very sorry for her.i'm afraid of what the court might hand down to me as a sentence if I should confess,what people will do to my family and how my parents might feel I am so confuse.
WHAT SHOULD I DO??
From Anonymous.
Dear Anonymous,
You were possessed with jealous and temperament which you failed to control.you failed to build your marriage on trust,you failed to be matured and be a man in your marriage by asking yourself question before carrying out your evil act.Mr Anonymous did you even for once consider seeking for spiritual advice,parental advice before doing what you did.Now you are considering the sentence that you will face but you didn't consider this your wife's parents before doing what you did?Mr you didn't consider the pain her family will bear all through their lives because of their daughter's death and you went ahead to murder your innocent wife who did nothing to you.
You knew your brother was her friend before you married her,you didn't suspect them but after one year of marriage you feel they are now having an affair,Mr you acted like the devil his self.You allowed jealous take better part of you.now you must do something.from what you said she was a friend to your brother to the extent of visiting him at home that shows that his calls to your late wife was base on the friendship they had.you simply allowed the devil to use you to destroy your home
You must confess because even the bible said that he who coverth his sin will not prosper.For that lady's spirit to be at rest you must confess what you did to her.You must come clean my friend.it only when you have confessed that God can forgive you and have mercy on you.Though the court might be harsh in delivering sentence against you if the case should get to it but who knows what God can do if he pardons you.I urge you to confess quickly for there is no sin too great to be forgiven,When you confess only then can you make heaven and that is the only justice you can give to this innocent lady you killed.Goodluck
Sunday 16 April 2017
I'm The Cause Of My Barreness,Should I Tell My Husband.
Dear Eve,
My name Is Kehinde and am 32 years old.I got married to my childhood heart rob eight years ago.But since then I have not been able to conceive.my parents and in laws are worried but I can't come clean and tell them that am the cause of my problem.
When I was in the university I aborted four times for my live in school boyfriend.The last one I did was five months old.I didn't want to abort it but my ex parents didn't accept me.i have no option but to abort the baby,I had complications through the process so my womb was affected.
I later got married to my childhood lover after my service year and since then I haven't been able to conceive.My husband cries anytime there is child dedication in our church or any child birthday around.He has been begging me to follow him to the hospital all these years but I have been telling him that is s doubt to our faith.
Last week,we went for a child dedication of a family friend,when he was asked to pray for the child,with the microphone in his hand he broke down and started crying.Im so confuse right now I don't know if I should tell him the truth or not.What should I do?
Dear Kehinde,
Your problem is a great one but you must to tell him.Who knows you might be able to conceive after confessing to him.Seeing him suffer like this I know you are not enjoying it right?So go and talk to your pastor first.your pastor should be the best person to tell him the truth.you can't handle it alone,he might not be able to handle it so you must need someone else he will respect to be there.he needs to know the truth,though he might be mad but trust me if he really love you he will stay even after knowing the truth,and believe me the doctors might have given their report concerning your womb but God's has not given his own report.Believe me all hope is not lost yet.
Good luck as you do so. OVER TO YOUR GUYS WHAT IS YOUR ADVICE TO KEHINDE DROP YOUR ADVICE ON THE COMMENTS Section below.
My name Is Kehinde and am 32 years old.I got married to my childhood heart rob eight years ago.But since then I have not been able to conceive.my parents and in laws are worried but I can't come clean and tell them that am the cause of my problem.
When I was in the university I aborted four times for my live in school boyfriend.The last one I did was five months old.I didn't want to abort it but my ex parents didn't accept me.i have no option but to abort the baby,I had complications through the process so my womb was affected.
I later got married to my childhood lover after my service year and since then I haven't been able to conceive.My husband cries anytime there is child dedication in our church or any child birthday around.He has been begging me to follow him to the hospital all these years but I have been telling him that is s doubt to our faith.
Last week,we went for a child dedication of a family friend,when he was asked to pray for the child,with the microphone in his hand he broke down and started crying.Im so confuse right now I don't know if I should tell him the truth or not.What should I do?
Dear Kehinde,
Your problem is a great one but you must to tell him.Who knows you might be able to conceive after confessing to him.Seeing him suffer like this I know you are not enjoying it right?So go and talk to your pastor first.your pastor should be the best person to tell him the truth.you can't handle it alone,he might not be able to handle it so you must need someone else he will respect to be there.he needs to know the truth,though he might be mad but trust me if he really love you he will stay even after knowing the truth,and believe me the doctors might have given their report concerning your womb but God's has not given his own report.Believe me all hope is not lost yet.
Good luck as you do so. OVER TO YOUR GUYS WHAT IS YOUR ADVICE TO KEHINDE DROP YOUR ADVICE ON THE COMMENTS Section below.
Sunday 9 April 2017
Am Dating My Dad's Girlfriend.
Dear Eve,
I met my girlfriend at a wedding reception.she was the chief bride's maid.i fell in love with immediately I saw her little did I know that I was aimed at doom.
I approached her and we became item immediately and was so much in love.she is a banker with a prominent bank in Nigeria while I'm a hotelier.Nothing matters to us after our first date if not our love.we spend weekends together and she became pregnant after seven months of meeting.i was so happy,I can't wait to be a father.I proposed immediately and she accepted.
The worst thing of my life happened when I went to my parents house to tell my Dad about the proposal on getting to the house I met my Dad absent.my mum was crying profusely.when I inquired what the problem was she narrated how my Dad has been cheating with a little girl and she decided to keep quiet,but as she was with Dad's phone this evening a message entered the phone.the sender told my Dad that everything seems ok now that the boyfriend has accepted the pregnancy but she is feeling guilty since she knows very well that the pregnancy belongs to him my father and not her boyfriend.
I made nothing out of it until my mother gave me the girls number.i dailed it with true caller only for my fiancé' details to appear.i lost it,I confronted her on getting to the house,she started crying and confessing when I showed her my Dad's picture.She said that my Father had been the one footing her bills.That my Dad saw her through her university level and got her the job through his friend.
It has been two years this happened.My Dad died last Friday,he was sick for two weeks and I didn't visit him because I wanted to punish him.i didn't know he will die.i don't know what to do know since the child he had with my ex will be brought home for the burial and I don't want to see that child or my ex.i don't want my mother to see two of them too.should I avoid going to the burial or not,how do I see that child as my brother or I and my sibling stay in this life accepting him as our own??that girl destroyed my home,she ripped my mother's heart apart.
Please what should I do?
Ben Oyelowo.
Dear Ben,
you have to forgive and move ahead.That is what you should have done before your Dad died.
That child is your step brother no matter the circumstances that surrounded his birth.he is an innocent child that doesn't know anything that might have happened between your Father,his mother or yourself.just let it go.your family should embrace that little boy and give your Dad a befitting burial and support that child as far as you can.bring him close and forget your Dad's mistake.
Over to you readers,what do you think Ben should do.
I met my girlfriend at a wedding reception.she was the chief bride's maid.i fell in love with immediately I saw her little did I know that I was aimed at doom.
I approached her and we became item immediately and was so much in love.she is a banker with a prominent bank in Nigeria while I'm a hotelier.Nothing matters to us after our first date if not our love.we spend weekends together and she became pregnant after seven months of meeting.i was so happy,I can't wait to be a father.I proposed immediately and she accepted.
The worst thing of my life happened when I went to my parents house to tell my Dad about the proposal on getting to the house I met my Dad absent.my mum was crying profusely.when I inquired what the problem was she narrated how my Dad has been cheating with a little girl and she decided to keep quiet,but as she was with Dad's phone this evening a message entered the phone.the sender told my Dad that everything seems ok now that the boyfriend has accepted the pregnancy but she is feeling guilty since she knows very well that the pregnancy belongs to him my father and not her boyfriend.
I made nothing out of it until my mother gave me the girls number.i dailed it with true caller only for my fiancé' details to appear.i lost it,I confronted her on getting to the house,she started crying and confessing when I showed her my Dad's picture.She said that my Father had been the one footing her bills.That my Dad saw her through her university level and got her the job through his friend.
It has been two years this happened.My Dad died last Friday,he was sick for two weeks and I didn't visit him because I wanted to punish him.i didn't know he will die.i don't know what to do know since the child he had with my ex will be brought home for the burial and I don't want to see that child or my ex.i don't want my mother to see two of them too.should I avoid going to the burial or not,how do I see that child as my brother or I and my sibling stay in this life accepting him as our own??that girl destroyed my home,she ripped my mother's heart apart.
Please what should I do?
Ben Oyelowo.
Dear Ben,
you have to forgive and move ahead.That is what you should have done before your Dad died.
That child is your step brother no matter the circumstances that surrounded his birth.he is an innocent child that doesn't know anything that might have happened between your Father,his mother or yourself.just let it go.your family should embrace that little boy and give your Dad a befitting burial and support that child as far as you can.bring him close and forget your Dad's mistake.
Over to you readers,what do you think Ben should do.
Monday 3 April 2017
It seems my husband is Broke:::He won't admit.
Dear Eve,
Dear eve I want you and and the world to advice me on this because I'm going crazy.My husband of 3yrs seems to be broke.Before now he cares for the family financially,He pays the rent and medical bills and I'm a housewife.But since late last year he does non of that.He won't bring out money for anything in the house,he barely eat at home these days and won't care if I have money to eat or not.Whenever I ask for a thing he will say he doesn't have money.
I don't want to report him to his parents or mine but I'm am suffering here.I find it difficult to take care of myself or even buy anything we need for the house.He leaves the house very early every day,he won't touch his breakfast and won't ask me if I have anything to eat.
Should I report him to our family,or should I quit this hell of a marriage please my brothers and sisters advice me.
Dammy.
Dear Dammy,
It is clear that your husband is going through difficult time that might not have anything to do with finance but have to do with you.This man practically does everything for you financial for three years but is not happy with you.there must be something he is complaining about you that you won't stop doing so he is clearly angry with you.For a husband who has been footing the bills to suddenly change means he is not satisfy with your character.
Now you have to have a serious talk with him,but before then you must try to be more caring to him,be kind to him.Excort him to the car every morning,infact make him a king now.i bet you this man will personally tell you all his problems.Change all your characters he might be complaining of because from the look of thing he is angry with you not broke.even if he is broke it your duty to find out through a heart to heart talk which you need to engage him in through a caring and matured way and most especially pray for him.
And also read the comments and see what others have to say.
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