Monday, 18 November 2019
Eve pillow talk: Dear Eve,I met Faith a year and six months ago in...
Eve pillow talk: Dear Eve,
I met Faith a year and six months ago in...: Dear Eve, I met Faith a year and six months ago in a club.i took her home and we had a nice time together.i paid her off that day and we e...
Dear Eve,
I met Faith a year and six months ago in a club.i took her home and we had a nice time together.i paid her off that day and we exchanged numbers.
The next time I needed a woman I called her to come spend time with me.she was great in bed but what caught me my attention was her character.As a bachelor,the house was a mess and I usually buy my food from Buka but as she came that afternoon,she washed the dishes,clean the entire house.out of gratitude,I asked her to spend the night and I increase her money.in the morning,I purposely asked her to prepare breakfast for me.we went to the market together and she made a nice soup and kept the right quantity in the refrigerator.From that day,I do call her up to help me with the house chores she never failed to come help me even the days I didn't call her,she will call me to know if I needed her help.Gradually I felled in love with her.I never asked her out but we started dating,spending time together.i asked her to stop the runs of a thing and I enrolled her in a fashion school.She is living in my house and foot all her bills and her character is better than all the girls I have dated in the past.
Now I want to get married but my friends are all against me getting married to an ex-prostitute.they said she will give birth to prostitutes or worst because she have slept with different men.Even my closest friend is threatening to tell my family about her past if I insist on getting married to her.some are saying she will become adulterous later and she is pretending to love me.
For two months now I have been so hostile to her.i want her to leave but she just keep on being nice to the extent that I shed tears secretly because I never intended to be bad to her.i do love this girl but my friends were there the day I picked her from the club.what should I do? Anonymous
Dear Anonymous,
Marriage these days are crumbling because of the same reason you have here,what about my friends opinion,my mother's opinion and the society at large?is my partner good for them?Dearest marriage is sacred,marriage is an institution,your partner must be from personal choice and opinion and not for public opinion poll.
This girl might have a bad past but her personality surpass all the mistakes she have made.you have rinse her with the help of God out of bondage and made her see light.You prefer her character to all you have been with now why do you care about your friends opinion?if you really love her you need to accept her character and her past ,your friends or parents are not ones to leave with her but you.when you marry the wrong person or right the out come is entirely yours to bear so dear tell your friends that she is the one period.when we claim to love someone we ought to forgive he or she of the past.she might have a reason why she took that part not all prostitutes inherited the behaviour.some are out of frustration while some are out of peer influence.My candid advise is go ahead and marry this girl if you really love her.dont mind what the society will say or think,you might marry a church girl and the marriage will not last.the part where they said she might become adulterous is a big liar.some of these girls don't do it because they enjoy it but because they feel it's their only hope of survival.some of the church girls have deep secrets you won't believe,some have ugly monsters in their cupboard,in their closets are stories you can't imagine.is it not better you stay with the person you have know her worst?Love coverth all sins says the word of God.Your friends might end up coming to seek advice on how to keep their own home when yours becomes that great..go ahead and marry your girl,good luck.
I met Faith a year and six months ago in a club.i took her home and we had a nice time together.i paid her off that day and we exchanged numbers.
The next time I needed a woman I called her to come spend time with me.she was great in bed but what caught me my attention was her character.As a bachelor,the house was a mess and I usually buy my food from Buka but as she came that afternoon,she washed the dishes,clean the entire house.out of gratitude,I asked her to spend the night and I increase her money.in the morning,I purposely asked her to prepare breakfast for me.we went to the market together and she made a nice soup and kept the right quantity in the refrigerator.From that day,I do call her up to help me with the house chores she never failed to come help me even the days I didn't call her,she will call me to know if I needed her help.Gradually I felled in love with her.I never asked her out but we started dating,spending time together.i asked her to stop the runs of a thing and I enrolled her in a fashion school.She is living in my house and foot all her bills and her character is better than all the girls I have dated in the past.
Now I want to get married but my friends are all against me getting married to an ex-prostitute.they said she will give birth to prostitutes or worst because she have slept with different men.Even my closest friend is threatening to tell my family about her past if I insist on getting married to her.some are saying she will become adulterous later and she is pretending to love me.
For two months now I have been so hostile to her.i want her to leave but she just keep on being nice to the extent that I shed tears secretly because I never intended to be bad to her.i do love this girl but my friends were there the day I picked her from the club.what should I do? Anonymous
Dear Anonymous,
Marriage these days are crumbling because of the same reason you have here,what about my friends opinion,my mother's opinion and the society at large?is my partner good for them?Dearest marriage is sacred,marriage is an institution,your partner must be from personal choice and opinion and not for public opinion poll.
This girl might have a bad past but her personality surpass all the mistakes she have made.you have rinse her with the help of God out of bondage and made her see light.You prefer her character to all you have been with now why do you care about your friends opinion?if you really love her you need to accept her character and her past ,your friends or parents are not ones to leave with her but you.when you marry the wrong person or right the out come is entirely yours to bear so dear tell your friends that she is the one period.when we claim to love someone we ought to forgive he or she of the past.she might have a reason why she took that part not all prostitutes inherited the behaviour.some are out of frustration while some are out of peer influence.My candid advise is go ahead and marry this girl if you really love her.dont mind what the society will say or think,you might marry a church girl and the marriage will not last.the part where they said she might become adulterous is a big liar.some of these girls don't do it because they enjoy it but because they feel it's their only hope of survival.some of the church girls have deep secrets you won't believe,some have ugly monsters in their cupboard,in their closets are stories you can't imagine.is it not better you stay with the person you have know her worst?Love coverth all sins says the word of God.Your friends might end up coming to seek advice on how to keep their own home when yours becomes that great..go ahead and marry your girl,good luck.
Monday, 11 November 2019
Dear Eve,
I'm getting married in the month of December this year but I don't love my husband to be.
I'm 31 years of age and all my friends are married.My age mates are almost married expect for a few and myself,this have been a burden to me.no suitor have come since last two years.I have already given up,I have gone to spiritual houses,did lots of prayers.eventually my soon to be husband came last three months and he came for nothing but marriage. I accepted the proposal not because I love him but because I'm afraid that no one might come again.he is not my type, he is lousy though very caring and kind.
We have bought almost everything needed for the traditional wedding and the dowry have been paid.I'm not excited at all that am getting married but I think I must go through with the wedding because of my age.
Please what should I do?
Ayo
Dear Ayo,
I know that feeling of accepting what one doesn't want out of necessity but I think you should not go through with the marriage because it might not last.Your heart doesn't accept him.some say love do develop after a short while in such marriage but I don't believe that.Dear please marriage is for better for worst and when you are not in love with your partner nothing he or she does will be pleasing to you.you will end up hating him or her the more way into the marriage.instead of going into this marriage because of shame that your friends are all married,pray harder and watch very soon your kind of Man will show up.many still get married after 35 years.marriage is meant to be enjoyed not to be endured.when you get into this marriage you might end up only enduring in pain althrough.how will you feel after posting the pre wedding and wedding photos on social media then after few years you will announce your separation.making love to your husband might not be fun at all because you don't love him.call him and your family and talk to them in honesty they will understand. I pray that God will help you.Goodluck.
I'm getting married in the month of December this year but I don't love my husband to be.
I'm 31 years of age and all my friends are married.My age mates are almost married expect for a few and myself,this have been a burden to me.no suitor have come since last two years.I have already given up,I have gone to spiritual houses,did lots of prayers.eventually my soon to be husband came last three months and he came for nothing but marriage. I accepted the proposal not because I love him but because I'm afraid that no one might come again.he is not my type, he is lousy though very caring and kind.
We have bought almost everything needed for the traditional wedding and the dowry have been paid.I'm not excited at all that am getting married but I think I must go through with the wedding because of my age.
Please what should I do?
Ayo
Dear Ayo,
I know that feeling of accepting what one doesn't want out of necessity but I think you should not go through with the marriage because it might not last.Your heart doesn't accept him.some say love do develop after a short while in such marriage but I don't believe that.Dear please marriage is for better for worst and when you are not in love with your partner nothing he or she does will be pleasing to you.you will end up hating him or her the more way into the marriage.instead of going into this marriage because of shame that your friends are all married,pray harder and watch very soon your kind of Man will show up.many still get married after 35 years.marriage is meant to be enjoyed not to be endured.when you get into this marriage you might end up only enduring in pain althrough.how will you feel after posting the pre wedding and wedding photos on social media then after few years you will announce your separation.making love to your husband might not be fun at all because you don't love him.call him and your family and talk to them in honesty they will understand. I pray that God will help you.Goodluck.
Saturday, 9 November 2019
Dear eve,
I'm kelechi from Anambra state.I got married last year to my husband.I was 23 years old when I got married and my husband was 36.He is based in Australia,he is married to an Australia woman and they have two daughters.though he told my family and I his marital status before we got married last year but now I'm not comfortable with the whole thing again and I want to quit my marriage.
He told me not to post our marriage on social media.I'm not allowed to be his friend on social media and can't celebrate our anniversaries like my fellow women on social media.he told me he married the woman and in order to survive over there but i don't believe him because children doesn't suppose to come from that kind of relationship.he visits Nigeria not more than three times in a year while he basically live with his wife over there with their children but I'm just a Nigeria base who is hidden from the world.he posts the pictures of his wife and kids on social media then mine he hides infact I can't even call him expect he calls because the white woman doesn't suppose to know about my existence. Please I'm tired and I want to call the white woman and tell her the truth or I walk away from the marriage.please what should I do.
Kelechi
Dear kelechi,
At 24 you are not supposed to be in this kind of marriage but you are already in it you have only option of walking away but remember you wrote that this man told you family about his marital status before your family accepted the dowry from him that means he is a good and honest man but its like the thought and fantasies of getting married to abroad based man didn't allow you to see clearly what you were getting into.It will be a great injustice to this man if you expose him to the said white woman.it wouldn't do you any good and you will end up ruining this man entire future and all he worked hard to get.This man have done you no wrong.gently leave but cause no harm to his life but if you want to stay,my sister getting married to an abroad base man you must be matured enough to bear any ugly outcome because keeping a long distance relationship is not an easy thing.this man restricting you call is not he love you less but he only protecting himself,the other woman who knows nothing about your existence.the white woman is the victim here not you.she was married to this man,might have also worked hard with him to get the things you are enjoying today. Sweetheart sit your ass down or leave peacefully.
I'm kelechi from Anambra state.I got married last year to my husband.I was 23 years old when I got married and my husband was 36.He is based in Australia,he is married to an Australia woman and they have two daughters.though he told my family and I his marital status before we got married last year but now I'm not comfortable with the whole thing again and I want to quit my marriage.
He told me not to post our marriage on social media.I'm not allowed to be his friend on social media and can't celebrate our anniversaries like my fellow women on social media.he told me he married the woman and in order to survive over there but i don't believe him because children doesn't suppose to come from that kind of relationship.he visits Nigeria not more than three times in a year while he basically live with his wife over there with their children but I'm just a Nigeria base who is hidden from the world.he posts the pictures of his wife and kids on social media then mine he hides infact I can't even call him expect he calls because the white woman doesn't suppose to know about my existence. Please I'm tired and I want to call the white woman and tell her the truth or I walk away from the marriage.please what should I do.
Kelechi
Dear kelechi,
At 24 you are not supposed to be in this kind of marriage but you are already in it you have only option of walking away but remember you wrote that this man told you family about his marital status before your family accepted the dowry from him that means he is a good and honest man but its like the thought and fantasies of getting married to abroad based man didn't allow you to see clearly what you were getting into.It will be a great injustice to this man if you expose him to the said white woman.it wouldn't do you any good and you will end up ruining this man entire future and all he worked hard to get.This man have done you no wrong.gently leave but cause no harm to his life but if you want to stay,my sister getting married to an abroad base man you must be matured enough to bear any ugly outcome because keeping a long distance relationship is not an easy thing.this man restricting you call is not he love you less but he only protecting himself,the other woman who knows nothing about your existence.the white woman is the victim here not you.she was married to this man,might have also worked hard with him to get the things you are enjoying today. Sweetheart sit your ass down or leave peacefully.
Saturday, 24 August 2019
How Do I cope With My Boyfriend's Babymama and The Baby.
Dear Eve,
My boyfriend of Six months,whom i love so much has a baby with another woman before we met.he told me about the baby mama and the baby and i accepted to be with him no matter the circumstances surrounding the relationship.At first the going was ok.i move along with the relationship,loving the baby boy as mine but i dont think i can do it anymore because the baby mama suddenly started coming close to my man,this makes me uncomfortable.
My boyfriend and the baby mama exchanges phone Call everyday in the name of co-parenting.she Calls in the midnight to report the child is ill or about school issues.One night,she called by 9pm and immediately my boyfriend rushed out to her home because the baby had a little fever.She clearerly wants my man.
I think she is using the baby as an excuse to come close to him and anytime i complain my boyfriend will understand it that i'm too sensitive and jealous.I really want to confront her.i want her to stay away from my Man or should i get pregnant to retain my stand with him?
What Do you Advice i should do?
May.
Dear Mary,
Honey it's wise of you that you that you seek for an advice before you take a step you might regret later one life.One,it's alright you feel the way you do.Every woman who is in love will certainly feel threatened by the presence of another woman around her man.
To be honest it's best you have one on one discussion with your man.let him clarify you on your stand with him.Anything he tells you,take it accept it that way and watch.That he is in constant communication with his baby mama is not unusual for separated parents co-parenting a child.for him to always listen to her means he is a good man and respectful too.Remember the lady in question is not just a regular girl trying to get her way with him.No,she was with him,infact the mother of his child.The relationship have come to stay,it now left for you to know if you can cope with it because even if he marries you tommorow he can't stop coperating with his baby mama in order to raise the child until the child can take care of himself.
In order hands,they can still be in love but the guy might be playing a nice guy in order not to hurt you.so the best step in all this is to have a heart discussion with him in order to know whether to move on with your life or not.if he is still in love with her do not try to fight just walk away.commit it all into the hands of God and watch how your own miracle will come.It's much better to be single than to be with a man whose heart is with another.
Don't ever try to get pregnant in order to
Keep him.If the other lady can't keep him with a child why do you think it will work for you.Having a child will only show how desperate you are to keep him.Great woman do not compete for love they compete for greatness.The heart knows where it belongs.so if his heart doesn't belong to you no method can keep him.I pray you approach this issue with prayer and wisdom.bye
Dear Eve,
My boyfriend of Six months,whom i love so much has a baby with another woman before we met.he told me about the baby mama and the baby and i accepted to be with him no matter the circumstances surrounding the relationship.At first the going was ok.i move along with the relationship,loving the baby boy as mine but i dont think i can do it anymore because the baby mama suddenly started coming close to my man,this makes me uncomfortable.
My boyfriend and the baby mama exchanges phone Call everyday in the name of co-parenting.she Calls in the midnight to report the child is ill or about school issues.One night,she called by 9pm and immediately my boyfriend rushed out to her home because the baby had a little fever.She clearerly wants my man.
I think she is using the baby as an excuse to come close to him and anytime i complain my boyfriend will understand it that i'm too sensitive and jealous.I really want to confront her.i want her to stay away from my Man or should i get pregnant to retain my stand with him?
What Do you Advice i should do?
May.
Dear Mary,
Honey it's wise of you that you that you seek for an advice before you take a step you might regret later one life.One,it's alright you feel the way you do.Every woman who is in love will certainly feel threatened by the presence of another woman around her man.
To be honest it's best you have one on one discussion with your man.let him clarify you on your stand with him.Anything he tells you,take it accept it that way and watch.That he is in constant communication with his baby mama is not unusual for separated parents co-parenting a child.for him to always listen to her means he is a good man and respectful too.Remember the lady in question is not just a regular girl trying to get her way with him.No,she was with him,infact the mother of his child.The relationship have come to stay,it now left for you to know if you can cope with it because even if he marries you tommorow he can't stop coperating with his baby mama in order to raise the child until the child can take care of himself.
In order hands,they can still be in love but the guy might be playing a nice guy in order not to hurt you.so the best step in all this is to have a heart discussion with him in order to know whether to move on with your life or not.if he is still in love with her do not try to fight just walk away.commit it all into the hands of God and watch how your own miracle will come.It's much better to be single than to be with a man whose heart is with another.
Don't ever try to get pregnant in order to
Keep him.If the other lady can't keep him with a child why do you think it will work for you.Having a child will only show how desperate you are to keep him.Great woman do not compete for love they compete for greatness.The heart knows where it belongs.so if his heart doesn't belong to you no method can keep him.I pray you approach this issue with prayer and wisdom.bye
Saturday, 30 June 2018
I work In A Morgue.. I can't stop sleeping with female corpse
Dear eve,
I started helping my dad in the mortuary where he works after my secondary school in year 2007.shortly I noticed that my Dad sleeps with corpse there.i banged in in him one faithfully evening having sex with a corpse of a woman who the family deposited in the afternoon that very day.Dad sent me to buy food for him while he dresses the corpse.i didn't know that was his way of sending me away so that he can have sexual intercourse with the corpse.when I banged in on him he begged me not tell anyone.i never did until he passed away in 2012.But since after that day I started practicing what I saw.i started molesting female corpse whenever my dad and nobody else was at sight.it became a habit that I couldn't break.
I have no desire for any other girl but the corpse in the mortuary.even when I got admission into the University,i applied for a job in a morgue,to people it was to get financial help but no, it was for me to be able to satisfy my sexual urge.even after graduation I still work in a mortuary while my mates are going for higher achievement,im still working in a morgue so that I can fulfill my heart desire which is making love with dead women whenever no one is around.i have gone to mountain of fire and other ministries for deliverance but I can never be satisfied whenever I have sex with any other woman until I do it with a corpse.
Effiong.
Dear Effiong,
This is not only a case of deliverance but a case of destroying strongholds and habits.first of all you need to quit working in a mortuary.accepts Jesus as your lord and personal Savior first, and believe sincerely that he died on the cross of Calvary for your sake and have set you free.then start proclaiming your freedom from pit of darkness every minutes of the day.
This is not just an ordinary act but an attack on your destiny from pit of hell.deternine in your heart that you want to be free and no matter how much the urge comes over you and when it comes go out to where you won't be alone.
Secondly look for help from trusted family members,tell them your problem and get them to always pray and stay around you.i will keep on praying for you.
Thursday, 17 May 2018
He Dumped Me After Two Years,I Can't Get Over It.
Dear Eve,
My heart is aching,I'm in so much pain and agony,he broke my heart in a way I never expected.I don't know how to get over it.
I met Kanyine in 2014 on Facebook,he was residing in Germany then.we became more of friends and lovers.we spent hours talking on phone everyday.four months after we met he sent money to me to start erecting a house on a piece of land he brought before he traveled. He sent to me to his village to spend a month with his mom and his older sisters,being the only son he wanted his mother to be close to his wife to be.I thought he was joking until he started sending pictures of wedding gowns to me and asked me to choose the one I would love.I made my choice and he bought it for me.one year after our meeting he came back,my hope knows no bound.he asked me to pack into the new house with him which I did and he proposed weeks after,we lived together for a year and ten months.
Few months after I packed into his housr he started complaining about me.nothing I did was good again,all my character was wrong in his eyes.I won't lie,they was sometimes when I will stand up for myself and it will always result in beating.he was beating me as if I'm his fellow man.
5months ago,his younger brother visited.I tried being nice to him also but he always give a cold shoulder.I didn't know what his brother told him about me because he always avoid me.then one day he asked me to make bed for him I refused and he reported me to his brother,my fiance.when my fiance asked me I told him I can't make bed for somone who avoids me.he became angry and said that i'm very disrespectful.we argued and he started punching me.his brother was just standing,he made no effort to separate us.after the fight Kanyine asked me out of the house and threw my things outside.i slept in a friends house and the next day I travelled to his mother's place.narrated the story to her,she said I should go to Owerri,that she will speak her son and get back to me.I called her the next day,she didn't pick,I sent numerous messages,she didn't reply.my mother talked to my fiance and he said I should give him time to calm down.
One month later I was shocked to my marrow when I saw my fiance's pre-wedding photographys on social media. He got married to a girl from the same church where we worship with the same wedding gown he bought for me.
Since then I have been a shadow of myself,living in pain and agony.i have been broken financially because we partner in the business he started when he came back.
Please how do I get over this.
Agnes.
Dear Agnes,
For a year and ten months you have been living together with a man who wasn't married to you.certainly the relationship broke up because you laid a faulty foundation.you had a sinful foundation.as a matter of fact you are not suppose to live in the same house with a man who hasn't pay your dowry because certainly both of you will start seeing faulty in no distance time and between God and africa culture its wrong.moreover you refusing to make bed for his younger brother was bad too.as a woman you suppose not to wait until you are asked or begged before you make the bed.you suppose to do it before he ask.you were wrong, very wrong honey.
Yes his younger brother was avoiding you but did you take time to ask him why,being his younger brother also means he is your fiance and its your duty to bring happiness,kindness and care to your home.what is kindness if you don't care enough to ask your soon to be brother in law why his attitude toward you changed.assume you asked him it wouldnt have been like this.
I'm not saying that you are entirely wrong but I'm trying to point out the few areas you failed.arguing with a man in his entire self is wrong.that is the best way to avoid the beating.am not justifying domestic violence but women who try to talk with their action rather than words have more peaceful home.
You are broken now because you were busy building his business with him and weren't building yourself in anywhere.this man was beating you and stay put in the relationship and no time did you try to shake this off by packing out for a while.you turn yourself into a prey.
For his mother to promise talking to her son and the same time stopped taking you calls shows that this people wanted you out but you failed to understand this.
The best thing to do now is to kneel down and beg God to forgive for the fornication you committed with your ex and start building a new relationship with God.a sincere relationship with God first will bring a better relationship with your partner.
Get involve in things that will make you forget your ex,don't try to remember how sweet memories you had,let the past pass.erase the old memories and build up head with the words of proverb everyday.exercise and go out with new friends.
God will certainly give you a better man soon.
Dear Eve,
My heart is aching,I'm in so much pain and agony,he broke my heart in a way I never expected.I don't know how to get over it.
I met Kanyine in 2014 on Facebook,he was residing in Germany then.we became more of friends and lovers.we spent hours talking on phone everyday.four months after we met he sent money to me to start erecting a house on a piece of land he brought before he traveled. He sent to me to his village to spend a month with his mom and his older sisters,being the only son he wanted his mother to be close to his wife to be.I thought he was joking until he started sending pictures of wedding gowns to me and asked me to choose the one I would love.I made my choice and he bought it for me.one year after our meeting he came back,my hope knows no bound.he asked me to pack into the new house with him which I did and he proposed weeks after,we lived together for a year and ten months.
Few months after I packed into his housr he started complaining about me.nothing I did was good again,all my character was wrong in his eyes.I won't lie,they was sometimes when I will stand up for myself and it will always result in beating.he was beating me as if I'm his fellow man.
5months ago,his younger brother visited.I tried being nice to him also but he always give a cold shoulder.I didn't know what his brother told him about me because he always avoid me.then one day he asked me to make bed for him I refused and he reported me to his brother,my fiance.when my fiance asked me I told him I can't make bed for somone who avoids me.he became angry and said that i'm very disrespectful.we argued and he started punching me.his brother was just standing,he made no effort to separate us.after the fight Kanyine asked me out of the house and threw my things outside.i slept in a friends house and the next day I travelled to his mother's place.narrated the story to her,she said I should go to Owerri,that she will speak her son and get back to me.I called her the next day,she didn't pick,I sent numerous messages,she didn't reply.my mother talked to my fiance and he said I should give him time to calm down.
One month later I was shocked to my marrow when I saw my fiance's pre-wedding photographys on social media. He got married to a girl from the same church where we worship with the same wedding gown he bought for me.
Since then I have been a shadow of myself,living in pain and agony.i have been broken financially because we partner in the business he started when he came back.
Please how do I get over this.
Agnes.
Dear Agnes,
For a year and ten months you have been living together with a man who wasn't married to you.certainly the relationship broke up because you laid a faulty foundation.you had a sinful foundation.as a matter of fact you are not suppose to live in the same house with a man who hasn't pay your dowry because certainly both of you will start seeing faulty in no distance time and between God and africa culture its wrong.moreover you refusing to make bed for his younger brother was bad too.as a woman you suppose not to wait until you are asked or begged before you make the bed.you suppose to do it before he ask.you were wrong, very wrong honey.
Yes his younger brother was avoiding you but did you take time to ask him why,being his younger brother also means he is your fiance and its your duty to bring happiness,kindness and care to your home.what is kindness if you don't care enough to ask your soon to be brother in law why his attitude toward you changed.assume you asked him it wouldnt have been like this.
I'm not saying that you are entirely wrong but I'm trying to point out the few areas you failed.arguing with a man in his entire self is wrong.that is the best way to avoid the beating.am not justifying domestic violence but women who try to talk with their action rather than words have more peaceful home.
You are broken now because you were busy building his business with him and weren't building yourself in anywhere.this man was beating you and stay put in the relationship and no time did you try to shake this off by packing out for a while.you turn yourself into a prey.
For his mother to promise talking to her son and the same time stopped taking you calls shows that this people wanted you out but you failed to understand this.
The best thing to do now is to kneel down and beg God to forgive for the fornication you committed with your ex and start building a new relationship with God.a sincere relationship with God first will bring a better relationship with your partner.
Get involve in things that will make you forget your ex,don't try to remember how sweet memories you had,let the past pass.erase the old memories and build up head with the words of proverb everyday.exercise and go out with new friends.
God will certainly give you a better man soon.
Friday, 23 March 2018
HELP MY HUSBAND WHO IS A PASTOR IS A RITUALIST..
Dear Eve,
I'm in a helpless situation but I will go straight to the point.my husband is the founder of the church he pastorS here in Warri,Delta state. The church was four years old when I got married to him fours ago.at the church miracles takes place, there is commotion of miracles and we are adore by members of the church.our members keep increasing by the day and now we have added a school to it too,my husband loves me and he plays his fatherly role to our daughter.some of the miracle testifiers are paid to testify. Some are brought from far states and are paid to testify to one miracle or the other and this increases our members.
But truth is that my husband is a ritualist, his miracles are not from God and the increase in church members are all through fetish means.
All this started one month after our wedding,My mother in law came to visit us. After dinner three of us would sit and chat into the night,but I would always go to bed before them.i didn't know that my husband was having sexual relationship with his mother.they always chat till I am forced to leave them and go to bed then one night,by 1am I woke up and went to the parlour to invite my husband to bed,i didn't see him or the mom.As I went to call him in his mother's room,i caught him on top of his mother,having sex.
I screamed and ran into our room,both of them came into our room where I was weeping and told me a story that sounds like a nollywood story.
My mother in law said she was doing it to save her children from poverty.that after the death of her husband,they lived from hand to mouth,until my husband met an old friend of his who is from Anambra state.His old friend is a prophet based in Cotonou,he has the fastest growing church in Cotonou.he introduced my husband into the church business and the native Doctor Who prepares charm for him at Ijebu ode,Ondo state.my mother in law said that one of the things the native doctor gave my husband for church growth and financially increase is having sexual relationship with his mother.she agreed to it in order to help her son.
He and his mother brought out a Little calabash with some items inside and made me swear not to tell anyone.that if I do I will die.since then I have kept mute until now, because I can't bear it anymore,My husband brought in different types of juju into the house,he sleeps with his single and married members.he said I own the new school and all the money is mine but I fear for my life and can't stay in this marriage anymore.our daughter is a year and nine months old and I want to run away from this house.my mom is very sick now and something keep telling me that my husband might have a hand in it but am not sure.i don't feel safe at night, I don't feel safe whenever he is making love to me. The church members sees me happy but they don't know what I'm passing through inward. I'm afraid of leaving so that he won't kill me.
Help me eve,pastor Ifechukwudenu.
Our Word
Dear pastor Ifechukwudenu,
You have been in this marriage for fours years,you have been climbing the altar as a pastor too and you and your husband have been deceiving thousands for fours years now? Why the sudden change of heart. You have been witnessing sexual relationship between your Husband and your mother in law until now? Dear you are bound to your husband until death do you apart so stay there.1 Corinthians 7:39 says you are bound to your husband as long as he lives so Pastor you have to submit to your husband.
Your have been afraid that was why you kept this secret for fours years?who told you that you are now free from the oath, honey you are still under that oath.sorry that I am harsh but the truth is that you have to continue keeping that secret because you women of our days I don't know why you keep fooling yourselves with excuses. It was that day you found out this issue that you suppose to pack back to your father's house.but I'm sure you remain in that horrible house because of the title and money.now you are afraid of death? Why didn't you run to your mother,you kept quite,living in lies.my advice is that you keep praying to God to change your husband and more especially watch the movie War Room.
Dear Eve,
I'm in a helpless situation but I will go straight to the point.my husband is the founder of the church he pastorS here in Warri,Delta state. The church was four years old when I got married to him fours ago.at the church miracles takes place, there is commotion of miracles and we are adore by members of the church.our members keep increasing by the day and now we have added a school to it too,my husband loves me and he plays his fatherly role to our daughter.some of the miracle testifiers are paid to testify. Some are brought from far states and are paid to testify to one miracle or the other and this increases our members.
But truth is that my husband is a ritualist, his miracles are not from God and the increase in church members are all through fetish means.
All this started one month after our wedding,My mother in law came to visit us. After dinner three of us would sit and chat into the night,but I would always go to bed before them.i didn't know that my husband was having sexual relationship with his mother.they always chat till I am forced to leave them and go to bed then one night,by 1am I woke up and went to the parlour to invite my husband to bed,i didn't see him or the mom.As I went to call him in his mother's room,i caught him on top of his mother,having sex.
I screamed and ran into our room,both of them came into our room where I was weeping and told me a story that sounds like a nollywood story.
My mother in law said she was doing it to save her children from poverty.that after the death of her husband,they lived from hand to mouth,until my husband met an old friend of his who is from Anambra state.His old friend is a prophet based in Cotonou,he has the fastest growing church in Cotonou.he introduced my husband into the church business and the native Doctor Who prepares charm for him at Ijebu ode,Ondo state.my mother in law said that one of the things the native doctor gave my husband for church growth and financially increase is having sexual relationship with his mother.she agreed to it in order to help her son.
He and his mother brought out a Little calabash with some items inside and made me swear not to tell anyone.that if I do I will die.since then I have kept mute until now, because I can't bear it anymore,My husband brought in different types of juju into the house,he sleeps with his single and married members.he said I own the new school and all the money is mine but I fear for my life and can't stay in this marriage anymore.our daughter is a year and nine months old and I want to run away from this house.my mom is very sick now and something keep telling me that my husband might have a hand in it but am not sure.i don't feel safe at night, I don't feel safe whenever he is making love to me. The church members sees me happy but they don't know what I'm passing through inward. I'm afraid of leaving so that he won't kill me.
Help me eve,pastor Ifechukwudenu.
Our Word
Dear pastor Ifechukwudenu,
You have been in this marriage for fours years,you have been climbing the altar as a pastor too and you and your husband have been deceiving thousands for fours years now? Why the sudden change of heart. You have been witnessing sexual relationship between your Husband and your mother in law until now? Dear you are bound to your husband until death do you apart so stay there.1 Corinthians 7:39 says you are bound to your husband as long as he lives so Pastor you have to submit to your husband.
Your have been afraid that was why you kept this secret for fours years?who told you that you are now free from the oath, honey you are still under that oath.sorry that I am harsh but the truth is that you have to continue keeping that secret because you women of our days I don't know why you keep fooling yourselves with excuses. It was that day you found out this issue that you suppose to pack back to your father's house.but I'm sure you remain in that horrible house because of the title and money.now you are afraid of death? Why didn't you run to your mother,you kept quite,living in lies.my advice is that you keep praying to God to change your husband and more especially watch the movie War Room.
Saturday, 10 March 2018
I Am Pregnant For My Late Fiance...
Dear eve,
My name is Adaobi,Am 37 years of age,i met my late fiancé a year ago,three months later he proposed.it was a great testimony for me because most of my agemates are married with kids, my younger ones are married. Before I met Michael my late fiancé people have started mocking me, the world have asked questions and my mother have said lots of time that she is ashamed of me. I slept in shame and pain, I have gone to different churches but my age kept going up but no suitors was coming until last year when I met Michael. He was everything I wanted in a man, he proposed after three months my joy was of no comparison.
We did the introduction and I took in immediately,we kick off with our wedding plans.
Our wedding was three weeks away when my fiance died in a motor accident on his way to work. He was married last November.
My dowry has not been paid and am pregnant at 37 years.i do not know what to do now, my shame has been increased.i do not know who did this to me, who took my joy away, who tampered with my blessing?how can I become a single mom at 37?how do I keep the baby whose father is late? Who will marry me now that am going to be a single mom at 37?please help me Eve because I'm confused,.
Adaobi.
Dear Adaobi,
I'm deeply sorry for your lost,one can tell what you are going through.but I want you to know first of all that God truly loves you and he knows what you are going through and he promised to be with us in our time of trouble,he never sleep nor slumber.
Dear you have been through alot starting from getting married late and the death of your man at the edge of marriage but he said in all things we should give thanks.
What you need now is to get strong for your baby,you will keep that bundle of joy and wait for what God will do. Do not look at what people have said Or will say.focus your mind on what God is saying... He said he will never leave or forsake you, dear buckle up and keep strong.
Jesus has already bore your shame on the cross, he has carried your problems away in his grave why then do you bother?
That child in your womb will weep your tears away, he will dry your tears and make you happy OK.
Dont bother about what he will eat for God said he will supply all our needs according to his riches in glory.he open the womb of Sarah at 90,he cause Lazarus to come up from dead at four days? What can't he do please relaxed for he that gave you that child will bring his provision OK.
He will be your husband and you will be gloriously married soon.
Dear eve,
My name is Adaobi,Am 37 years of age,i met my late fiancé a year ago,three months later he proposed.it was a great testimony for me because most of my agemates are married with kids, my younger ones are married. Before I met Michael my late fiancé people have started mocking me, the world have asked questions and my mother have said lots of time that she is ashamed of me. I slept in shame and pain, I have gone to different churches but my age kept going up but no suitors was coming until last year when I met Michael. He was everything I wanted in a man, he proposed after three months my joy was of no comparison.
We did the introduction and I took in immediately,we kick off with our wedding plans.
Our wedding was three weeks away when my fiance died in a motor accident on his way to work. He was married last November.
My dowry has not been paid and am pregnant at 37 years.i do not know what to do now, my shame has been increased.i do not know who did this to me, who took my joy away, who tampered with my blessing?how can I become a single mom at 37?how do I keep the baby whose father is late? Who will marry me now that am going to be a single mom at 37?please help me Eve because I'm confused,.
Adaobi.
Dear Adaobi,
I'm deeply sorry for your lost,one can tell what you are going through.but I want you to know first of all that God truly loves you and he knows what you are going through and he promised to be with us in our time of trouble,he never sleep nor slumber.
Dear you have been through alot starting from getting married late and the death of your man at the edge of marriage but he said in all things we should give thanks.
What you need now is to get strong for your baby,you will keep that bundle of joy and wait for what God will do. Do not look at what people have said Or will say.focus your mind on what God is saying... He said he will never leave or forsake you, dear buckle up and keep strong.
Jesus has already bore your shame on the cross, he has carried your problems away in his grave why then do you bother?
That child in your womb will weep your tears away, he will dry your tears and make you happy OK.
Dont bother about what he will eat for God said he will supply all our needs according to his riches in glory.he open the womb of Sarah at 90,he cause Lazarus to come up from dead at four days? What can't he do please relaxed for he that gave you that child will bring his provision OK.
He will be your husband and you will be gloriously married soon.
Tuesday, 24 October 2017
Can My Bestfriend Who Is Not A Certified Event Planner Plan My Wedding
Dear eve,
My name is Bola and my wedding is coming up by March,congrats to me.
The problem is that my Bestfriend is insisting on being my event planner.she is new in the business and I can't turn her down but deep down I don't want her to be the planner.she hasnt not done any event before.I want an experience planner to cover the event.
She said she will do it free but my man said he also doesn't want her too.We are afraid she might not be able to do it right.i don't know how to turn her down pls advise me on what to do.
Bola.
Dear Bola,
You thinking about your friend's feeling means a lot.it shows how a good friend you are to her.
What you should do is to hire her and hire another experience event planner.it is giving her a chance to kick start her own career too.If you don't give her a chance to prove herself who would,it's better you let her make herself proud and help you as well.
You have to explain to your man what this job means to your friend and what helping her means to you too and you also have to explain to your friend why you need to hire an additional planner.Let her know it's to make the job easy for her.she working with the your experienced planner could help her learn more.congrats on advance.wedding
Monday, 26 June 2017
Could It Be That My Mum Is Sleeeping With My Husband
Dear Eve,
I and my husband were deported from the U.s four months ago.i delivered my son two months after arriving Nigeria.my mum has been in our house since then but sometime seem to be going on between her and my husband.
My husband has been able to start something of his own since we came here so he spend all this time at home only on few occasions he went out with friends.Anytime he is at home he chat with my mom endlessly.Whenever my mum is cooking he will offer to help her out in the kitchen,after I have gone to bed they will still be watching one film after another.this triggers some suspense in me because of what I see on television and read on books,about mother in law having affairs with son in law.i have tried to confront my husband but I don't want to accuse him wrongly and break my home.
Please what should I do?
Anna.
Dear Anna,
Firstly,you are not wrong by suspecting them because you are a human being but what you actually feeling is jealousy but before you have this feeling it shows you have known what your mother and husband can do.
You have to cheek what your mom and husband are capable of doing,in order words what kind of persons are they?when you have put this together then you can be able to know if you are safe or not.
Then don't ask any of them this question because you might be accusing them wrongly like you said but you can always join them in the kitchen,watch the television with them or you can sleep in your husband's lap until he is ready to go to bed because he might just be playing the role of a good soon to your mom.Since he isn't not working now he might not be sleeping so early so dismiss all those your feeling or would you prefer your mom and husband fighting all the time.Would you like it if your mom is fighting him all the time or him complaining about your mom all the time so dear your role now is to join them in being a happy family.
I and my husband were deported from the U.s four months ago.i delivered my son two months after arriving Nigeria.my mum has been in our house since then but sometime seem to be going on between her and my husband.
My husband has been able to start something of his own since we came here so he spend all this time at home only on few occasions he went out with friends.Anytime he is at home he chat with my mom endlessly.Whenever my mum is cooking he will offer to help her out in the kitchen,after I have gone to bed they will still be watching one film after another.this triggers some suspense in me because of what I see on television and read on books,about mother in law having affairs with son in law.i have tried to confront my husband but I don't want to accuse him wrongly and break my home.
Please what should I do?
Anna.
Dear Anna,
Firstly,you are not wrong by suspecting them because you are a human being but what you actually feeling is jealousy but before you have this feeling it shows you have known what your mother and husband can do.
You have to cheek what your mom and husband are capable of doing,in order words what kind of persons are they?when you have put this together then you can be able to know if you are safe or not.
Then don't ask any of them this question because you might be accusing them wrongly like you said but you can always join them in the kitchen,watch the television with them or you can sleep in your husband's lap until he is ready to go to bed because he might just be playing the role of a good soon to your mom.Since he isn't not working now he might not be sleeping so early so dismiss all those your feeling or would you prefer your mom and husband fighting all the time.Would you like it if your mom is fighting him all the time or him complaining about your mom all the time so dear your role now is to join them in being a happy family.
Tuesday, 20 June 2017
My Man Refused To Disvirgin Me After I Gave My Virginity To Another Man He Doesn't Want Me Again
Dear Eve,
I'm a 25 years old lady,I decided to remain a virgin until I get married.it was a promise I made to myself,I wanted my first sex to be with my husband.Five months ago I met a guy and I fell in love with him totally.When I told him that I'm a virgin he was happy but from then on he avoided me sexually.he could not caress me or kiss me.i felt as if he doesn't love me enough because of my virginity.when I asked him he told me that he can't stand the sight of blood.he told me that he doesn't want us to engage in acts that will make us have sex because he hate to see blood and can't stand seeing me in pain.
With all he said I felt as if he can't marry me,I was scared of loosing him.Many times I saw condom in his pocket and when I ask he will say that since we can't do it he has to help himself.that it doesn't mean that he doesn't love me but because he doesn't want to disrespect my body.Because of all this I decided to let another man do it,so when one guy asked me out,I intentionally accepted him not because I love him but because I wanted to get deflowered in order to be available for my man sexually.
After I did it,I told my boyfriend that I have gotten rid of my virginity so I'm free for him now.he was shocked and furious with me.after I calmed him down he made love to me but from that day he started avoiding me.some times when he says that he isn't at home I will find out later that he was at home.one time like that he travelled,he said he will spend two weeks but later he spent only one week but never told me that he was back.I found out that he was back from his journey from his friends.
Please Eve,do you think he doesn't want me again,I have been blaming me for everything,I don't know what to do to win his love back.
Please what can I do to win him back?
Mercy Ossai.
Dear Mercy,
First of all you really presented yourself cheap because what you did is called CHEATING honey and no man want a cheating girlfriend?from all you wrote it appear you only kept your virginity not for your husband or because of God but for your own reason.If you had kept it to please God or for your husband you wouldn't have done what you did.After years of holding yourself for your wedding night,for your husband you later handed it out to a man you just met in order to please a man who hasn't not even proposed to you.A man who openly cheat on you with the excuse that he doesn't like the sight of blood,a man you just met five months ago.
For him not to like the sight of blood is even better for atleast he wouldn't pressurize you into giving him your virginity but you went ahead to give it to another man.what was your expectation after what you have done,were you expecting him to welcome your with a band after you have shown him that you are ready to even kill because of him,you have shown him that the virginity you were keeping was not for your wedding night but for any man who you feel something for.My dear you sold your pride for 5kb.Maybe this man valued you because of your virginity,maybe he wanted you to wet his bed with blood on your wedding night now you have shown him that you weren't really keeping for your wedding night but haven't seen an opportunity to give it out.
You have lost that guy,know that no man who have sense will still be in love with you after what you have done.Because to him now it's two things,one is that maybe you weren't a virgin that means you lied or you were so cheap to the guy you gave your virginity he can't believe you did it for him.he seduced you and you gave it out,from now on he can never trust you again.now it's time to move on, don't you expect anything good from this guy again.move on with you life certainly another man will show up but this time don't tell him what happened between you and this guy.And this man was even cheating on you and you have to give out your pride just to win his love,honey how far now with the winning?just move on because for him to avoid you clearly means he doesn't want you again but he can't tell you.most men can never tell you that it's over verbally they tell you with actions and this is his way of telling you it's over.You have ended up offending God to gain the world.
I'm a 25 years old lady,I decided to remain a virgin until I get married.it was a promise I made to myself,I wanted my first sex to be with my husband.Five months ago I met a guy and I fell in love with him totally.When I told him that I'm a virgin he was happy but from then on he avoided me sexually.he could not caress me or kiss me.i felt as if he doesn't love me enough because of my virginity.when I asked him he told me that he can't stand the sight of blood.he told me that he doesn't want us to engage in acts that will make us have sex because he hate to see blood and can't stand seeing me in pain.
With all he said I felt as if he can't marry me,I was scared of loosing him.Many times I saw condom in his pocket and when I ask he will say that since we can't do it he has to help himself.that it doesn't mean that he doesn't love me but because he doesn't want to disrespect my body.Because of all this I decided to let another man do it,so when one guy asked me out,I intentionally accepted him not because I love him but because I wanted to get deflowered in order to be available for my man sexually.
After I did it,I told my boyfriend that I have gotten rid of my virginity so I'm free for him now.he was shocked and furious with me.after I calmed him down he made love to me but from that day he started avoiding me.some times when he says that he isn't at home I will find out later that he was at home.one time like that he travelled,he said he will spend two weeks but later he spent only one week but never told me that he was back.I found out that he was back from his journey from his friends.
Please Eve,do you think he doesn't want me again,I have been blaming me for everything,I don't know what to do to win his love back.
Please what can I do to win him back?
Mercy Ossai.
Dear Mercy,
First of all you really presented yourself cheap because what you did is called CHEATING honey and no man want a cheating girlfriend?from all you wrote it appear you only kept your virginity not for your husband or because of God but for your own reason.If you had kept it to please God or for your husband you wouldn't have done what you did.After years of holding yourself for your wedding night,for your husband you later handed it out to a man you just met in order to please a man who hasn't not even proposed to you.A man who openly cheat on you with the excuse that he doesn't like the sight of blood,a man you just met five months ago.
For him not to like the sight of blood is even better for atleast he wouldn't pressurize you into giving him your virginity but you went ahead to give it to another man.what was your expectation after what you have done,were you expecting him to welcome your with a band after you have shown him that you are ready to even kill because of him,you have shown him that the virginity you were keeping was not for your wedding night but for any man who you feel something for.My dear you sold your pride for 5kb.Maybe this man valued you because of your virginity,maybe he wanted you to wet his bed with blood on your wedding night now you have shown him that you weren't really keeping for your wedding night but haven't seen an opportunity to give it out.
You have lost that guy,know that no man who have sense will still be in love with you after what you have done.Because to him now it's two things,one is that maybe you weren't a virgin that means you lied or you were so cheap to the guy you gave your virginity he can't believe you did it for him.he seduced you and you gave it out,from now on he can never trust you again.now it's time to move on, don't you expect anything good from this guy again.move on with you life certainly another man will show up but this time don't tell him what happened between you and this guy.And this man was even cheating on you and you have to give out your pride just to win his love,honey how far now with the winning?just move on because for him to avoid you clearly means he doesn't want you again but he can't tell you.most men can never tell you that it's over verbally they tell you with actions and this is his way of telling you it's over.You have ended up offending God to gain the world.
Wednesday, 14 June 2017
He Abandoned Me When I Was Pregnant Now He Wants The Child
Dear Eve,
I urgently need your advice before I make this decision that might affect my child and I.After I dated Ayomide for six months I took in.when I told him that I was pregnant he wasn't happy about it.he told me that he was not ready to be a father yet.When I told his mum she said she is not in support of her son becoming a father if he isn't ready.I was left alone,I cared for myself financially until I delivered the baby.Now my baby is a year old,when He saw my baby's one year birthday celebration on social media he slid into my dm and said he wanted to reconcile with me.Since then he has Been begging to see his child,not only that he wants the child now he wants us to be together.
Life has been so difficult for me financially,I don't know if I should take him back or not.My family said they don't want him to have the child so I don't know what to do,please what should I do?
Sharon.
Dear Sharon,
You made a mistake by getting pregnant for a man who was not even prepared for it.You also did the right thing by not aborting the child.Now what you should do is to let him see his child,let him have aceess to the child.And he can also assist financially because come rain com shine,the child is his child and nothing can change that.Even if you don't allow him have the child later in life that child will still go back to him.
But for you don't accept him back,he left you when you needed him most,now he is coming back because you have something he needs.go on with your life,meet another man and start over again.if you should go back to him now and another challenge springs up he will still leave you and run away.Face your life a better man who will stand still to his responsibilities will come.
Goodluck
I urgently need your advice before I make this decision that might affect my child and I.After I dated Ayomide for six months I took in.when I told him that I was pregnant he wasn't happy about it.he told me that he was not ready to be a father yet.When I told his mum she said she is not in support of her son becoming a father if he isn't ready.I was left alone,I cared for myself financially until I delivered the baby.Now my baby is a year old,when He saw my baby's one year birthday celebration on social media he slid into my dm and said he wanted to reconcile with me.Since then he has Been begging to see his child,not only that he wants the child now he wants us to be together.
Life has been so difficult for me financially,I don't know if I should take him back or not.My family said they don't want him to have the child so I don't know what to do,please what should I do?
Sharon.
Dear Sharon,
You made a mistake by getting pregnant for a man who was not even prepared for it.You also did the right thing by not aborting the child.Now what you should do is to let him see his child,let him have aceess to the child.And he can also assist financially because come rain com shine,the child is his child and nothing can change that.Even if you don't allow him have the child later in life that child will still go back to him.
But for you don't accept him back,he left you when you needed him most,now he is coming back because you have something he needs.go on with your life,meet another man and start over again.if you should go back to him now and another challenge springs up he will still leave you and run away.Face your life a better man who will stand still to his responsibilities will come.
Goodluck
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