I want to my ask to take his mother out of our home

Dear eve,
My name is Maureen Egoejionwu,i got married to my husband not to his mother.my mother in law has been in our house since we got married last year January but now i want to her to go back to the village.
After our wedding in january 2019,her first daughter pleaded for me to allow their mother stay with us for a while.my mother in law has three children,my husband,her first daughter who is married and the last daughter who graduated last year September.so when i was asked to let their old mother to stay in our new home allowed her thinking it will last for a while.the reason was that the first daughter was sick and she wasn't able to take care of her two kids and their mother.
It's has been one year and four months now but they arent talking about it again.she is diabetic,i take care of her food,wash her clothes.from the second week after my wedding,she moved in and since then i haven't enjoyed my husband.we didn't enjoy or had any honeymoon.her daughter is healthy now i want to tell them to take her away.i have not conceived since then till now,i'm not saying that she is a witch but i want her to leave.but i'm afraid that my husband might get angry if i tell him to tell his mother away from our home.please what can i do?

Dear Maureen,
I commend your effort and patience all this while she has been with you.you have tried and what you are asking for doesn't make you a bad woman at all but all i can say to you is to talk to you husband first.
The way you present the issue to him matters alot.talk to him calmly and it is left for him to talk to his sisters on the best way to handle their mother's situation.
They can take her back to the village,get a househelp and a nurse for her to take care of her.
Meanwhile,before you husband and sisters sort out this issue please be patience with your mother in law.be kind to her,she is also your mother.you and your husband should go for fertility tests and treatment.do not thinking for once that she is the cause of your predicament because she is not.
Thanks.

How Can I Get My Ex Girlfriend Who Is Already Married Back

My name is Kola,I’m 30 years of age.please I need an advice on how I can get my ex girlfriend who is already married back.
I and my ex met 3years ago at Nysc orientation camp and the chemistry was high.we became friends and after two weeks of meeting I asked her out and she accepted me.we were so much in love.after our service I asked her to come back to Lagos with me and search for a job here.i’m already a photographer and that is what i want to do professionally.that was how we started living in my parents house at Gbagada.my parents accepted her despite the fact she is Igbo.after a year and 7months I rented my own apartment and we moved into my new apartment.immediately we moved Maureen will not let me rest again.all her topic became marriage,she would ask me every now and then when i go and see her parents with my people.
I always told her to hold on that I was not prepared at that moment.I’m the first child of my parents.She is 29 so was I.i needed to stand solid financially.put my career on the right track.anytime we had this conversation she will start giving me silence treatment.when I couldn’t take it anymore.i asked her to get an apartment and I will pay it or move to the mainland and stay with cousin sister.
I wasn’t breaking up with her.i just wanted a time to miss her because she was starting to piss me off big with her constant ‘marriage talk’.
Immediately my girl moved to the mainland she stopped taking my calls as she use to do.even when she picks she will make the conversation very brief.Whenever I invite her over to the house she will have an excuse why she can’t make it.when I saw that I can’t take her new attitude again I stopped talking to her.i thought that she will miss me.
After four months of no communication,my friend called my last two weeks to login to Facebook when I did I got the shock of my life.my girlfriend just held her introduction.her called her and all she could reply me when I asked her was time was no longer on her side.since I wasn’t ready she have to accept the guy she met at her cousin’s church.i told her to break up the engagement and come back she refused.
I’m heartbroken,I love her.i want her back.i just wanted to give her a little space so that she can realize herself.
Please eve,can I still her back.please what should I do?
Chima.


Dear Chima,
Your story is touching but it’s too late to get her back.she is gone.
It’s not your fault though she not yours.But you made a mistake along the line.the girl is 29 and you don’t expect her not to be bothered about marriage?both of you have been together for three years there was enough time for you to have decided where you will go with her.you mustn’t make all the money in the world before you can go and see her people.
Secondly the  mode of communication how was it.how you communicated your intention matters a lot here.you didn’t communicate very well to her then she started giving you the silent treatment.
Thirdly why ask her out of your house.it was immature and disrespectful.it would have been better you travelled than to ask her out of the house.that alone suggest you the were order issues you didn’t mention here.next time learn to handle situations like this more matured way.please just move on,asking her to break her engagement is not right neither is it godly.
God will give you a good woman soon.

How Do I Stop Loving My Ex
   
   Dear Eve,
I got married to my wife three years ago...I was not in love with her but I got married to her after my ex jilted me because I wasn't ready for marriage at that time.after one year of my ex's marriage,I met my wife and I married her immediately to stop hurting from the heart break.My mother said that after sometime I will learn to love her but since then I haven't fallen in  with her rather I love my ex.
What will I do to stop loving my ex and  fall in love with my wife?
Chinedu,


Dear,chinedu,
It's heartbreaking to read your story,loving someone from afar when you really need the person to love you back but you need to accept your wife.Your ex doesn't love you at all but your wife love and accepted you the way you are,instead of you loving her you are stretching your neck to someone who doesn't love you at all.Nothing will make your ex come back to you so concentrate on building your home.goodluck

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Dear Eve,
I met Faith a year and six months ago in a club.i took her home and we had a nice time together.i paid her off that day and we exchanged numbers.
The next time I needed a woman I called her to come spend time with me.she was great in bed but what caught me my attention was her character.As a bachelor,the house was a mess and I usually buy my food from Buka but as she came that afternoon,she washed the dishes,clean the entire house.out of gratitude,I asked her to spend the night and I increase her money.in the morning,I purposely asked her to prepare breakfast for me.we went to the market together and she made a nice soup and kept the right quantity in the refrigerator.From that day,I do call her up to help me with the house chores she never failed to come help me even the days I didn't call her,she will call me to know if I needed her help.Gradually I felled in love with her.I never asked her out but we started dating,spending time together.i asked her to stop the runs of a thing and I enrolled her in a fashion school.She is living in my house and  foot all her bills and her character is better than all the girls I have dated in the past.
Now I want to get married but my friends are all against me getting married to an ex-prostitute.they said she will give birth to prostitutes or worst because she have slept with different men.Even my closest friend is threatening to tell my family about her past if I insist on getting married to her.some are saying she will become adulterous later and she is pretending to love me.
For two months now I have been so hostile to her.i want her to leave but she just keep on being nice to the extent that I shed tears secretly because I never intended to be bad to her.i do love this girl but my friends were there the day I picked her from the club.what should I do? Anonymous


Dear Anonymous,
Marriage these days are crumbling because of the same reason you have here,what about my friends opinion,my mother's opinion and the society at large?is my partner good for them?Dearest marriage is sacred,marriage is an institution,your partner must be from personal choice and opinion and not for public opinion poll.
This girl might have a bad past but her personality surpass all the mistakes she have made.you have rinse her with the help of God out of bondage and made her see light.You prefer her character to all you have been with now why do you care about your friends opinion?if you really love her you need to accept her character and her past ,your friends or parents are not ones to leave with her but you.when you marry the wrong person or right the out come is entirely yours to bear so dear tell your friends that she is the one period.when we claim to love someone we ought to forgive he or she of the past.she might have a reason why she took that part not all prostitutes inherited the behaviour.some are out of frustration while some are out of peer influence.My candid advise is go ahead and marry this girl if you really love her.dont mind what the society will say or think,you might marry a church girl and the marriage will not last.the part where they said she might become adulterous is a big liar.some of these girls don't do it because they enjoy it but because they feel it's their only hope of survival.some of the church girls have deep secrets you won't believe,some have ugly monsters in their cupboard,in their closets are stories you can't imagine.is it not better you stay with the person you have know her worst?Love coverth all sins says the word of God.Your friends might end up coming to seek advice on how to keep their own home when yours becomes that great..go ahead and marry your girl,good luck.

Dear Eve,
I'm getting married in the month of December this year but I don't love my husband to be.
I'm 31 years of age and all my friends are married.My age mates are almost married expect for a few and myself,this have been a burden to me.no suitor have come since last two years.I have already given up,I have gone to spiritual houses,did lots of prayers.eventually my soon to be husband came last three months and he came for nothing but marriage. I accepted the proposal not because I love him but because I'm afraid that no one might come again.he is not my type, he is lousy though very caring and kind.
We have bought almost everything needed for the traditional wedding and the dowry have been paid.I'm not excited at all that am getting married but I think I must go through with the wedding because of my age.
Please what should I do?
Ayo

Dear Ayo,
I know that feeling of accepting what one doesn't want out of necessity but I think you should not go through with the marriage because it might not last.Your heart doesn't accept him.some say love do develop after a short while in such marriage but I don't believe that.Dear please marriage is for better for worst and when you are not in love with your partner nothing he or she does will be pleasing to you.you will end up hating him or her the more way into the marriage.instead of going into this marriage because of shame that your friends are all married,pray harder and watch very soon your kind of Man will show up.many still get married after 35 years.marriage is meant to be enjoyed not to be endured.when you get into this marriage you might end up only enduring in pain althrough.how will you feel after posting the pre wedding and wedding photos on social media then after few years you will announce your separation.making love to your husband might not be fun at all because you don't love him.call him and your family and talk to them in honesty they will understand. I pray that God will help you.Goodluck.

Dear eve,
I'm kelechi from Anambra state.I got married last year to my husband.I was 23 years old when I got married and my husband was 36.He is based in Australia,he is married to an Australia woman and they have two daughters.though he told my family and I his marital status before we got married last year but now I'm not comfortable with the whole thing again and I want to quit my marriage.
He told me not to post our marriage on social media.I'm not allowed to be his friend on social media and can't celebrate our anniversaries like my fellow women on social media.he told me he married the woman and in order to survive over there but i don't believe him because children doesn't suppose to come from that kind of relationship.he visits Nigeria not more than three times in a year while he basically live with  his wife over there with their children but I'm just a Nigeria base who is hidden from the world.he posts the pictures of his wife and kids on social media then mine he hides infact I can't even call him expect he calls because the white woman doesn't suppose to know about my existence. Please I'm tired and I want to call the white woman and tell her the truth or I walk away from the marriage.please what should I do.
Kelechi


Dear kelechi,
At 24 you are not supposed to be in this kind of marriage but you are already in it you have only option of walking away but remember you wrote that this man told you family about his marital status before your family accepted the dowry from him that means he is a good and honest man but its like the thought and fantasies of getting married to abroad based man didn't allow you to see clearly what you were getting into.It will be a great injustice to this man if you expose him to the said white woman.it wouldn't do you any good and you will end up ruining this man entire future and all he worked hard to get.This man have done you no wrong.gently leave but cause no harm to his life but if you want to stay,my sister getting married to an abroad base man you must be matured enough to bear any ugly outcome because keeping a long distance relationship is not an easy thing.this man restricting you call is not he love you less but he only protecting himself,the other woman who knows nothing about your existence.the white woman is the victim here not you.she was married to this man,might have also worked hard with him to get the things you are enjoying today. Sweetheart sit your ass down or leave peacefully.

     How Do I cope With My Boyfriend's Babymama and The Baby.
                                                         Dear  Eve,
   My boyfriend of Six months,whom i love so much has a baby with another woman before we met.he told me about the baby mama and the baby and i accepted to be with him no matter the circumstances surrounding the relationship.At first the going was ok.i move along with the relationship,loving the baby boy as mine but i dont think i can do it anymore because the baby mama suddenly started coming close to my man,this makes me uncomfortable.
My boyfriend and the baby mama exchanges phone Call everyday in the name of co-parenting.she Calls in the midnight to report the child is ill or about school issues.One night,she called by 9pm and immediately my boyfriend rushed out to her home because the baby had a little fever.She clearerly wants my man.
I think she is using the baby as an excuse to come close to him and  anytime i complain my boyfriend will understand it that i'm too sensitive and jealous.I really want to confront her.i want her to stay away from my Man or should i get pregnant to retain my stand with him?
What Do you Advice i should do?
  May.


     Dear Mary,
 Honey it's wise of you that you that you seek for an advice before you take a step you might regret later one life.One,it's alright you feel the way you do.Every woman who is in  love will certainly feel threatened by the presence of another woman around her man.
To be honest it's best you have one on one discussion with your man.let him clarify you on your stand with him.Anything he tells you,take it accept it that way and watch.That he is in constant communication with his baby mama is not unusual for separated parents co-parenting a child.for him to always listen to her means he is a good man and respectful too.Remember the lady in question is not just a regular girl trying to get her way with him.No,she was with him,infact the mother of his child.The relationship have come to stay,it now left for you to know if you can cope with it because even if he marries you tommorow he can't stop coperating with his baby mama in order to raise the child until the child can take care of himself.
In order hands,they can still be in love but the guy might be playing a nice guy in order not to hurt you.so the best step in all this is to have a heart discussion with him in order to know whether to move on with your life or not.if he is still in love with her do not try to fight just walk away.commit it all into the hands of God and watch how your own miracle will come.It's much better to be single than to be with a man  whose heart is with another.
Don't ever try to get pregnant in order to
Keep him.If the other lady can't keep him with a child why do you think it will work for you.Having a child will only show how desperate you are to keep him.Great woman do not compete for love they compete for greatness.The heart knows where it belongs.so if his heart doesn't belong to you no method can keep him.I pray you approach this issue with prayer and wisdom.bye

I work In A Morgue.. I can't stop sleeping with female corpse

Dear eve,
I started helping my dad in the mortuary where he works after my secondary school in year 2007.shortly I noticed that my Dad sleeps with corpse there.i banged in in him one faithfully evening having sex with a corpse of a woman who the family deposited in the afternoon that very day.Dad sent me to buy food for him while he dresses the corpse.i didn't know that was his way of sending me away so that he can have sexual intercourse with the corpse.when I banged in on him he begged me not tell anyone.i never did until he passed away in 2012.But since after that day I started practicing what I saw.i started molesting female corpse whenever my dad and nobody else was at sight.it became a habit that I couldn't break.
I have no desire for any other girl but the corpse in the mortuary.even when I got admission into the University,i applied for a job in a morgue,to people it was to get financial help but no, it was for me to be able to satisfy my sexual urge.even after graduation I still work in a mortuary while my mates are going for higher achievement,im still working in a morgue so that I can fulfill my heart desire which is making love with dead women whenever no one is around.i have gone to mountain of fire and other ministries for deliverance but I can never be satisfied whenever I have sex with any other woman until I do it with a corpse.

Effiong.

Dear Effiong,
This is not only a case of deliverance but a case of destroying strongholds and habits.first of all you need to quit working in a mortuary.accepts Jesus as your lord and personal Savior first, and believe sincerely that he died on the cross of Calvary for your sake and have set you free.then start proclaiming your freedom from pit of darkness every minutes of the day.
This is not just an ordinary act but an attack on your destiny from pit of hell.deternine in your heart that you want to be free and no matter how much the urge comes over you and when it comes go out to where you won't be alone.
Secondly look for help from trusted family members,tell them your problem and get them to always pray and stay around you.i will keep on praying for you.

He Dumped Me After Two Years,I Can't Get Over It.

Dear Eve,
My heart is aching,I'm in so much pain and agony,he broke my heart in a way I never expected.I don't know how to get over it.
I met Kanyine in 2014 on Facebook,he was residing in Germany then.we became more of friends and lovers.we spent hours talking on phone everyday.four months after we met he sent money to me to start erecting a house on a piece of land he brought before he traveled. He sent to me to his village to spend a month with his mom and his older sisters,being the only son he wanted his mother to be close to his wife to be.I thought he was joking until he started sending pictures of wedding gowns to me and asked me to choose the one I would love.I made my choice and he bought it for me.one year after our meeting he came back,my hope knows no bound.he asked me to pack into the new house with him which I did and he proposed weeks after,we lived together for a year and ten months.
 Few months after I packed into his housr he started complaining about me.nothing I did was good again,all my character was wrong in his eyes.I won't lie,they was sometimes when I will stand up for myself and it will always result in beating.he was beating me as if I'm his fellow man.
5months ago,his younger brother visited.I tried being nice to him also but he always give a cold shoulder.I didn't know what his brother told him about me because he always avoid me.then one day he asked me to make bed for him I refused and he reported me to his brother,my fiance.when my fiance asked me I told him I can't make bed for somone who avoids me.he became angry and said that i'm very disrespectful.we argued and he started punching me.his brother was just standing,he made no effort to separate us.after the fight Kanyine asked me out of the house and threw my things outside.i slept in a friends house and the next day I travelled to his mother's place.narrated the story to her,she said I should go to Owerri,that she will speak her son and get back to me.I called her the next day,she didn't pick,I sent numerous messages,she didn't reply.my mother talked to my fiance and he said I should give him time to calm down.
One month later I was shocked to my marrow when I saw my fiance's pre-wedding photographys on social media. He got married to a girl from the same church where we worship with the same wedding gown he bought for me.
Since then I have been a shadow of myself,living in pain and agony.i have been broken financially because we partner in the business he started when he came back.
Please how do I get over this.
Agnes.


Dear Agnes,
For a year and ten months you have been living together with a man who wasn't married to you.certainly the relationship broke up because you laid a faulty foundation.you had a sinful foundation.as a matter of fact you are not suppose to live in the same house with a man who hasn't pay your dowry because certainly both of you will start seeing faulty in no distance time and between God and africa culture its wrong.moreover you refusing to make bed for his younger brother was bad too.as a woman you suppose not to wait until you are asked or begged before you make the bed.you suppose to do it before he ask.you were wrong, very wrong honey.
Yes his younger brother was avoiding you but did you take time to ask him why,being his younger brother also means he is your fiance and its your duty to bring happiness,kindness and care to your home.what is kindness if you don't care enough to ask your soon to be brother in law why his attitude toward you changed.assume you asked him it wouldnt have been like this.
I'm not saying that you are entirely wrong but I'm trying to point out the few areas you failed.arguing with a man in his entire self is wrong.that is the best way to avoid the beating.am not justifying domestic violence but women who try to talk with their action rather than words have more peaceful home.
You are broken now because you were busy building his business with him and weren't building yourself in anywhere.this man was beating you and stay put in the relationship and no time did you try to shake this off by packing out for a while.you turn yourself into a prey.
For his mother to promise talking to her son and the same time stopped taking you calls shows that this people wanted you out but you failed to understand this.
The best thing to do now is to kneel down and beg God to forgive for the fornication you committed with your ex and start building a new relationship with God.a sincere relationship with God first will bring a better relationship with your partner.
Get involve in things that will make you forget your ex,don't try to remember how sweet memories you had,let the past pass.erase the old memories and build up head with the words of proverb everyday.exercise and go out with new friends.
God will certainly give you a better man soon.

HELP MY HUSBAND WHO IS A PASTOR IS A RITUALIST..

Dear Eve,
I'm in a helpless situation but I will go straight to the point.my husband is the founder of the church he pastorS here in Warri,Delta state. The church was four years old when I got married to him fours ago.at the church miracles takes place, there is commotion of miracles and we are adore by members of the church.our members keep increasing by the day and now we have added a school to it too,my husband loves me and he plays his fatherly role to our daughter.some of the miracle testifiers are paid to testify. Some are brought from far states and are paid to testify to one miracle or the other and this increases our members.
But truth is that my husband is a ritualist, his miracles are not from God and the increase in church members are all through fetish means.
All this started one month after our wedding,My mother in law came to visit us. After dinner three of us would sit and chat into the night,but I would always go to bed before them.i didn't know that my husband was having sexual relationship with his mother.they always chat till I am forced to leave them and go to bed then one night,by 1am I woke up and went to the parlour to invite my husband to bed,i didn't see him or the mom.As I went to call him in his mother's room,i caught him on top of his mother,having sex.
I screamed and ran into our room,both of them came into our room where I was weeping and told me a story that sounds like a nollywood story.
My mother in law said she was doing it to save her children from poverty.that after the death of her husband,they lived from hand to mouth,until my husband met an old friend of his who is from Anambra state.His old friend is a prophet based in Cotonou,he has the fastest growing church in Cotonou.he introduced my husband into the church business and the native Doctor Who prepares charm for him at Ijebu ode,Ondo state.my mother in law said that one of the things the native doctor gave my husband for church growth and financially increase is having sexual relationship with his mother.she agreed to it in order to help her son.
He and his mother brought out a Little calabash with some items inside and made me swear not to tell anyone.that if I do I will die.since then I have kept mute until now, because I can't bear it anymore,My husband brought in different types of juju into the house,he sleeps with his single and married members.he said I own the new school and all the money is mine but I fear for my life  and can't stay in this marriage anymore.our daughter is a year and nine months old and I want to run away from this house.my mom is very sick now and something keep telling me that my husband might have a hand in it but am not sure.i don't feel safe at night, I don't feel safe whenever he is making love to me. The church members sees me happy but they don't know what I'm passing through inward. I'm afraid of leaving so that he won't kill me.
Help me eve,pastor Ifechukwudenu.



                        Our Word
Dear pastor Ifechukwudenu,
You have been in this marriage for fours years,you have been climbing the altar as a pastor too and you and your husband have been deceiving thousands for fours years now? Why the sudden change of heart. You have been witnessing sexual relationship between your Husband and your mother in law until now? Dear you are bound to your husband until death do you apart so stay there.1 Corinthians 7:39 says you are bound to your husband as long as he lives so Pastor you have to submit to your husband.
Your have been afraid that was why you kept this secret for fours years?who told you that you are now free from the oath, honey you are still under that oath.sorry that I am harsh but the truth is that you have to continue keeping that secret because you women of our days I don't know why you keep fooling yourselves with excuses. It was that day you found out this issue that you suppose to pack back to your father's house.but I'm sure you remain in that horrible house because of the title and money.now you are afraid of death? Why didn't you run to your mother,you kept quite,living in lies.my advice is that you keep praying to God to change your husband and more especially watch the movie War Room.

I Am Pregnant For My Late Fiance...

Dear eve,
   My name is Adaobi,Am 37 years of age,i  met my late fiancé a year ago,three months later he proposed.it was a great testimony for me because most of my agemates are married with kids, my younger ones are married. Before I met Michael my late fiancé people have started mocking me, the world have asked questions and my mother have said lots of time that she is ashamed of me. I slept in shame and pain, I have gone to different churches but my age kept going up but no suitors was coming until last year when I met Michael. He was everything I wanted in a man, he proposed after three months my joy was of no comparison.
We did the introduction and I took in immediately,we kick off with our wedding plans.
Our wedding was three weeks away when my fiance died in a motor accident on his way to work. He was married last November.
My dowry has not been paid and am pregnant at 37 years.i do not know what to do now, my shame has been increased.i do  not know who did this to me, who took my joy away, who tampered with my blessing?how can I become a single mom at 37?how do I keep the baby whose father is late? Who will marry me now that am going to be a single mom at 37?please help me Eve because I'm confused,.
 Adaobi.

Dear Adaobi,
I'm deeply sorry for your lost,one can tell what you are going through.but I want you to know first of all that God truly loves you and he knows what you are going through and he promised to be with us in our time of trouble,he never sleep nor slumber.
Dear you have been through alot starting from getting married late and the death of your man at the edge of marriage but he said in all things we should give thanks.
What you need now is to get strong for your baby,you will keep that bundle of joy and wait for what God will do. Do not look at what people have said Or will say.focus your mind on what God is saying... He said he will never leave or forsake you, dear buckle up and keep strong.
Jesus has already bore your shame on the cross, he has carried your problems away in his grave why then do you bother?
That child in your womb will weep your tears away, he will dry your tears and make you happy OK.
Dont bother about what he will eat for God said he will supply all our needs according to his riches in glory.he open the womb of Sarah at 90,he cause Lazarus to come up from dead at four days? What can't he do please relaxed for he that gave you that child will bring his provision OK.
He will be your husband and you will be gloriously married soon.

Can My Bestfriend Who Is Not A Certified Event Planner Plan My Wedding

Dear eve,

My name is Bola and my wedding is coming up by March,congrats to me.

The problem is that my Bestfriend is insisting on being my event planner.she is new in the business and I can't turn her down but deep down I don't want her to be the planner.she hasnt not done any event before.I want an experience planner to cover the event.

She said she will do it free but my man said he also doesn't want her too.We are afraid she might not be able to do it right.i don't know how to turn her down pls advise me on what to do.

Bola.

Dear Bola,

You thinking about your friend's feeling means a lot.it shows how a good friend you are to her.

What you should do is to hire her and hire another experience event planner.it is giving her a chance to kick start her own career too.If you don't give her a chance to prove herself who would,it's better you let her make herself proud and help you as well.

You have to explain to your man what this job means to your friend and what helping her means to you too and you also have to explain to your friend why you need to hire an additional planner.Let her know it's to make the job easy for her.she working with the your experienced planner could help her learn more.congrats on advance.wedding